Alright, parents. You’re supposed to be the grown-up, so it would be childish if you reveal the fact that your child succeeded in annoying the heck out of you. What do you do? You act passive-aggressive .
1. What? You needed a ride to the mall? Sorry, I have to do some grocery shopping. Your child tells you that he or she needs a ride a couple of days before. You say, “Sure, honey!”After an argument, you “forget” that your child needs a social life. What a convenient time to “forget”.
2. You want to go out? Oh, hey, I used to do that before I had you! Such an innocent comment, packed with a good dose of unfounded blame. Parents, we can’t stop you from doing anything; that’s not our place in the relationship. So, let’s settle: you do what you want; you let us do what is within reason.
3. I can’t deal with you anymore . As scary as it is when you get mad at your children, sometimes it’s worse when you do nothing at all. Your child will begin to wonder why you don’t correct them for an obvious immoral behavior and just continue to do it.
4. How would you feel if I died? Talk about the lowest blow ever. When you’re threatening your child by suicide, there is something wrong with you. Your kid will feel horrible-but for no reason. Your children will succumb to your every command, not because they have respect for you, but because they don’t want to be without a father or mother.
5. No, I’ll play with you another time. Pushing your child away, refusing their desire to get close to you, is selfish and irresponsible behavior. Just because you get in an argument with your child, your child still loves you. And when his or hers effort to reconcile is rejected, you’re just creating a wider gap.
6. Because I said so. Offering no explanation for an action will affect your child in two ways: One, your child will need no explanation and do whatever is asked, bad or good, and they will be easy to take advantage of. Two, your child will get tired of hearing “because I said so” and will not stop their bad behavior.
7. I’ll let you make the decision. Not. “I don’t like that shirt, it costs too much, and you will never wear it…but if you want it, buy it.” The bad thing about this is that it won’t be your child’s decision to do something; it would be yours.
8. Silence. When your child tries to talk to you, and you pretend to be gazing off into the distance or watching your favorite episode of “Gossip Girl”, the child will know something is wrong.
9. But I thought you liked brussel sprouts? Doing something like packing your child’s lunch with all of his hated foods and brushing this off as an accident is only going to make your child dislike you.
10. If only you’re more like… A child never likes to be compared or made to think they should be more like someone else in order to gain your love and attention again.
As critical as this article sounds, you probably have done this or maybe even seen this in your own parents’ behavior. Even though we might annoy you sometimes, we don’t deserve such behavior from our own parent. Basically, the way to avoid these behaviors is to confront your child. As cliché as it sounds, talking will help. Realize that you’re supposed to be the parent-that you’re their model in life.