The coworker you can´t stand is approaching you at work. You know the smirk, and that they are up to no good. It´s likely you will be suckered into pulling a late shift to cover for them. If you back out, you may lose your job or at the very least, be on shaky ground with your boss. This coworker seems to always get the unfair advantage!
Your significant other has another excuse why they can´t meet with you tonight. You had dinner reservations and it seems that their job or something else always takes precedence lately. Worse, you don´t want to just break off the relationship that you have had for five years. You have invested way too much into it, and they have a financial hold on you. It will cost you if you break off this relationship.
What can one do in these circumstances? Simple. First recognize how the best con artist persuades you into believing their BS.
1) The story keeps changing. It´s always a different answer too. Nothing shoots straight for this person!
2) Acting dumb but their not. Are they being genuine with you? Who knows! They are faker than a two dollar bill.
3) Acting smart when their not. This is easier to see–just how does someone who graduated from a community college acquire such a wealth of knowledge about physics, botany, and financial sense? This person can sell manure to a dairy farmer.
4) They try too hard. This begs the question, why?
5)They are nervous.They must be worried they will be caught shoveling their BS.
6) They are scared. Are those questions to validate their wealth of knowledge overwhelming them? Take pause.
7) Repeating questions. Stalling for time allows them to think of more BS to fling at you.
8) Hidden benefits.What´s in it for them? No one shovels BS for no reason.
9) One-sided debate. Why is it that they can´t see both sides? They don´t have to agree with the other side, they just need to recognize that it exists.
10) Passion for their one-sided view. Same thing, unable to see or listen to other people´s view points.
What can one do about this? Now that you have recognized the BS, here´s what one can do about it.
* What is their self-interest? If this person is going to get a raise, hook up with your significant other after making you two break up, or get a getter deal on a sale, chances are it´s a big, fat pile of BS.
* Question the BS-er. If they can´t give you a straight answer, don´t do business or fall in love with them!
* Those irksome statements. You know the ones: a)”To tell you the truth”; b) “I´ll be frank”; c) any statement with the word “honest” in it. This actually means, ” Let me tell you a pile of BS.”
* Name dropping. Why are they validating themselves with important people´s names? This should be a red flag.
* General confusion. Why do logical and sensical counterpoints confuse this person?
* Obvious mistruth. Sometimes their nose is growing right before your eyes. They are not even being subtle about their lies. They are arrogantly believing that they make a world of sense.
Hopefully these words of advice will aid you in getting a fair shake in the fallen world we unfortunately live in.
Sources derived from personal experience: living with two alcoholic spouses (fortunately not at the same time!), being in abusive work relationships, and being naturally gullible and naive.