Its so much easier in hindsight to wish you would’ve done this, or not done that, when you were a teenager. At that age, its very difficult to listen and really hear an older person’s advice. We don’t have enough experience to realize that we don’t know everything, in fact hardly anything about life yet. We’ll never know everything there is to know, even at 80 or 100. I guess that’s one of the biggest lessons to learn. These are just some of the things that I wish my 15 year old self knew and understood.
Lesson #1 To My 15 Year Old Self:
You only have one body, you can’t trade it in when you get older, and you will start to age eventually (it goes by much quicker then you think). Do you want to be able to have energy and strength to do all the things you enjoy? Treat it well now and you’ll be rewarded by looking younger and feeling better than most people your age. Find an activity you enjoy and it won’t feel like exercise. Learn more about nutrition and what your body needs to run optimally.
Lesson #2 To My 15 Year Old Self:
Only you can make yourself happy. Its all up to you. Having a bad day? Take a break, breathe, and think of things that make you happy. Dance around, play fun music, think about a good memory, do anything you can to change the way you feel as your the only one who can change it.
Lesson #3 To My 15 Year Old Self:
Its difficult when your a teenager, but a very important life lesson that doesn’t usually sink in until your at least 40 or so, is that it really doesn’t matter what any one else thinks. Learn to love yourself. Every person is unique. If everyone was the same, this world would be a boring place. Figure out what your values are, what is important to you, and stick with it. Don’t let others change your mind. No one else can make you feel better about yourself, only you can. If your worried about your looks, focus on what you like, not what you want to change. Each day you do this you’ll fee better about yourself.
Lesson #4 To My 15 Year Old Self:
You don’t have to know what you want “to do” as a career right away. Often times, it takes some life experience to figure that out. If you don’t know, its okay! Strive to learn about different opportunities and figure out what you enjoy doing. On the other hand, it bears repeating over and over, if you don’t stay in school you will probably regret it. Its much harder to go back as an adult then it is to do it now. You’ll have a lot more jobs available to you that you will actually enjoy doing, rather than just going to work and waiting for the day to end. Do you really want to spend your life that way? Its not fun, I promise.
Lesson #5 To My 15 Year Old Self:
Worrying accomplishes nothing. It causes anxiety and wastes time. It will even damage your body. If you can’t control something, don’t worry about it. If you can, do something to resolve the situation, worrying will not resolve it.
Lesson #6 To My 15 Year Old Self:
Realize that if you are harboring negative energy, it will spread to others. Other people pick up on this and respond to you in a negative way. If you are positive, you will spread positive energy to others and get that back to! It makes a world of difference. Happy people have more happy things happen to them. Sad people attract more sad people and things.
Lesson #7 To My 15 Year Old Self:
One of the hardest lessons to learn is that you can’t fill the emptiness inside you with anything but love for yourself. Finding a boyfriend/girlfriend will only fill that emptiness temporarily. After awhile, it will all come down to how you feel about yourself. You’ll keep seeking a new person to fill it after the last doesn’t work out, or stay in an unhealthy needy relationship if you don’t love yourself first.
Lesson #8 To My 15 Year Old Self:
Be grateful. Write a list every day of what you are grateful for. Even the littlest thing. Is it a beautiful day out? Did your dog make you smile? Being grateful for what you do have will only bring you more.
Lesson #9 To My 15 Year Old Self:
If you can, find at least one thing you are passionate about, and put your energy into that. You’ll have less time to worry, be bored, or to think negative thoughts.
Lesson #10 To My 15 Year Old Self:
On a practical note, money. I really wish someone had taught me how to manage money. If you are frivolous now, it will be very hard to break the habit later. Save as much as you can. Learn how to use credit and use it minimally, and learn how to budget. At the same time, don’t be so tight with your money that you don’t enjoy life. Give thoughtful personal gifts to family and friends- they don’t have to be expensive. Don’t make money the focus of your life or career. If you find a way to make a living doing what you love to do, the money will come. If you focus only on the money, there is a good chance that you’ll become unhappy later. When you’re about to leave this life, you won’t care about how much money you have or made, you’ll care about who you love and who loves you, and all of the friendships and memories you’ve made.