There is no denying that communication plays a key role in any relationship. It is especially important if you are trying to rebuild a relationship. Relationships can only work when you communicate correctly. When your own relationship is struggling, you need to make sure that the way you communicate is perfect, otherwise you may setback your ability to fix it.
How to Communicate When You Rebuild a Relationship
Communicating is a little different when your relationship is less healthy. When you are in a perfectly healthy relationship your focus is on communicating all of your thoughts in order to combat any issues before they become serious problems. When your relationship is unhappy, you lose a lot of that freedom, because open communication can damage your relationship further, depending on what your problems are. Here are three keys when it comes to improving relationship communication.
Never Blame Your Partner
In order to rebuild a relationship, you have to ensure that you do not pass blame to your partner when an issue arises. It is not important whether or not it is your partner’s fault. What matters is that you avoid any serious fights. Though you should communicate your problems, you should not worry about whether or not your partner knows they made a mistake. Focus only on yourself, because you are the only one you can change.
Never Overly Blame Yourself
It is common sense to avoid blaming your partner for your relationship problems. Where most people get it wrong, however, is when they start to put all the blame on themselves. That is not a solution either. Though you need to discuss what you can do to reduce the problems, you should not simply apologize for every mistake as though they are all your fault. Relationships are two way streets. Very few things are only one partner’s thought.
Focus on the Future, Not the Past
Finally, conversations should be focused on what the two of you will be able to do together in the future, not how you lived your past. You are working together to create a better future for each other as a couple. It is much harder to rebuild a relationship if all you do is focus on what happened in the past.
Communicate, But Be Careful
Clearly communication is important. It is a lack of communication that causes many relationship problems. But in order to rebuild a relationship, you have to limit how you communicate. Passing blame, taking responsibility for everything, and spending too much time talking about the past all make it difficult to create a better future together.