A player is someone who likes to have several relationships and tends to never get serious with any of them. It’s very easy to fall under their spell, so learning that they are a player can prove to become a very difficult task to say the least. Learning some of their behaviors can help you when it comes to spotting a player.
Probing is something that all players learn early on. They know just what they are doing and probing is done from the very start. Probing is where they are basically pumping you for information. They are trying to learn about you, but not because they want to get to know you, even though this is what is will look like to you. They are trying to learn everything so they can in turn use it all against you. You start falling harder because to you, it seems as if they truly care about you and they are really trying hard to get to know you.
No one will do a tell all when they are first dating, that’s a given. We don’t want anyone knowing everything there is to know about us. Some things are better left unsaid. But with a player, it seems like they haven’t told you anything about themselves. When you ask them a question about themselves they will find a way to get around it. They won’t answer the question directly and they will probably turn the tables back to you. Pay attention to how many times he checks his cell phone as well. It might be on silent, but that’s just a way for you to not keep track. If he tells you he has a lot of stalkers then you should probably just run the other way. His stalkers are in fact not stalkers, but they are his other girlfriends who are also being played.
Pay close attention to his dating styles. He is probably doing what we like to call the Hot & Cold dating game. This is where he is all into you one minute and then the next minute, he’s not into you at all. He will tell you things that he thinks the two of you should do, and then he never ends up actually taking you there. The reason they seem to do that is because they think that they have already won you over, so they don’t need to keep trying to win you. Since they have so many relationships going at once, they need to keep all their girlfriends happy with as little effort as possible.