On this 10th day of Thanksgiving I am thankful for a most wonderful thing – after 37 years on this earth I finally found my birth family.
I did not spend all that time searching; but I did know they existed from a very early age and I have always been curious about just where I came from.
There are several reasons why I waited so long to begin my search, including the respect I have for my adopted parents (and family), the fact that I had a pretty great childhood, and – honestly – the timing was never right, until last year.
And what a fascinating year its been getting to know my birth family. I actually know a bit more about my birth mother’s side but that doesn’t discount the fabulous folks on the paternal side – at all. Allow me to share with you why I am so very thankful that I finally know just where I come from – knowing your roots is a powerfully uplifting feeling.
8 Reasons I Am Thankful for My Birth Family:
(1) I now know where I get my looks (and we are most certainly a good looking bunch of folks – on both sides!)
(2) I am a big sister. I always wanted to be a big sister. We’re probably too old now for me to do much “big sistering” with my brother and sister. But I’m the oldest (on mom’s side) and I just plain like being the big sister.
(3) I am a little sister. And I love this too. I only know (and just a little bit) a couple of my brothers at this point but they – without question – loved me (and I them) from the moment we discovered each other.
(4) I found out that what my parents told me for so many years was true – that my mom gave me up because she knew she couldn’t care for me at that time and she wanted me to be happy with people who wished for a child. My mom did the exact right thing.
(5) I discovered that my sister and I are quite alike in many of our thoughts and actions. She is 12 years younger and its fabulous to see where she is now, where I was then, and to look forward to how she will grow as a person. She is beautiful and I love her – despite the fact that she’s so much like me (ha ha, sorry, sister!)
(6) I discovered that I am an Auntie to an overwhelming number of nieces and nephews – 5 (and counting) on my mom’s side; I still haven’t gotten the correct number on the paternal side. But its probably close to 30 total. Crazy, right? I always wanted to be an Auntie. How lucky am I?
(7) I went – in the blink of an eye – from being an only child to being one of 11 children born of my birth parents. Yes, 11 – a truly staggering but amazing number and I am so thankful to be a sibling.
(8) I am – no regrets – most thankful that I never met my biological father. From all accounts (on all sides) he was not a very nice man. I am sincerely sorry for the pain he caused my birth family and though I cannot change the past I hope you know that we are who and what we are in spite of him, not because of him; and that applies to all those affected, not just his children.
Those are just 8 of the reasons I am so very thankful for my birth family. I hope never to disparage either of my families (more about that later in the month) and I wish all of you to know that I consider myself incredibly blessed to be related to the likes of you – all of you.
I love you all. Thank you!
Personal Experience – getting to know my roots, 16 months and counting
Please Note: So many questions were answered the day I found my birth family. And so many bonuses were discovered too. Finding my roots has grounded me in ways I never imagined. And its just one more reason why I believe all life experiences are worth the ride. I never would have gotten (to) here without being there first!
And if you wish to know why there is all this thanking going on this thanksgiving month of November please read 30 Days of Thanksgiving-One Day at a Time. Remember, giving thanks for your many blessings should not be just a November thing. Enjoy!