A wise man once told me that when you get divorced from your spouse you are not divorcing your in-laws. They are still considered in-laws and family – good or bad. That’s a short summary of a longer explanation but in my case my in-laws are still family and I consider this a very good thing.
So today, November 23, I am thankful for Maggie’s Gramma and Popo. My in-laws. After almost 12 years together I do believe we finally (simply) understand each other. And this makes it incredibly convenient to have a non-drama relationship and to enjoy the benefits of having each other in our lives.
8 Reasons I am Thankful for My In-Laws:
(1) They are Arty’s parents and without them there wouldn’t be him and without him there wouldn’t be her. A bit convoluted? Ah, you get it, right?
(2) I have never called them anything other than mom and dad. (Well, there have been times I may have called them crazy but that street runs both ways I am quite sure!)
(3) Gramma and Popo are just that – Maggie’s grandparents. And they are good at it. Gramma loves her baby and spoils her baby and does so much for her baby. Popo is Popo and he’s not a really demonstrative guy but his love for his grandchild is overwhelming and true – and he allows Gramma to spoil Maggie; Gramma is relentless in her spoiling, in fabulous ways.
(4) Gramma does drive mommy crazy at times but we have a solid relationship in that I can tell her honestly how I’m feeling and even if its not what she wants to hear, she accepts my position and tries her best to understand it too.
(5) Popo is Popo because Maggie made him Popo. He could have just been a grandpa or grampie, etc.; but he is Popo, born of Maggie’s mind when she was barely able to form words.
(6) Gramma and Popo are full of love for their children and grandchildren. Sometimes it is a bit too much but more often it is just right.
(7) Gramma and Popo live 1000’s of miles away. This is a good thing and a bad thing. But mostly I am thankful for this because my daughter gets to experience all sorts of new and exciting things every time she travels to visit them.
(8) And finally, I am thankful for Gramma and Popo because they just are who they are. No one in this world could take their place in my heart. They are my in-laws, they are my family, and I love them.
At the end of the day it is good to know that my familial support system includes my ex-husband’s parents. I am thankful, my daughter is fortunate, and we are just darn blessed to have them in our lives.
Mom and Dad: Thank you. Thank you for just being you. Thank you for understanding that my way is not your way and that even though we don’t always get along, we do better than most and that is a very good thing. Thank you for taking such good care of Maggie when she is with you; really, I’m okay with your ways of rearing, as well as you understand mine. Again, we do better than most. I thank you, I love you, and I just thought you should know.
*Special Thanks* to my brother-in-law too. Don’t think I’ve forgotten our 3 day Monopoly bender, or the time I bit you and you went home and told dad, or all the times we ganged up on Arty. I still consider you family, you are a good uncle, and I love you; take it for what its worth!
A wise man via his Aunt Jeanette (may she rest in peace)
Gramma and Popo
Please Note: It has not always been pink puffy polka dots with mom and dad; Gramma and Popo. I am not trying to paint a perfect picture. However, at this point in all our lives it is so much easier and healthier to love, understand, and be thankful for all that we have and all that we are to each other. In my world that is a perfect picture. How darn lucky are we?
And if you are wondering why there is all this thanksgiving going on in this thankful month of November please read 30 Days of Thanksgiving-One Day at a Time . Remember, being thankful for your many blessings does not have to be just a November thing. Enjoy!