Whether you’ve known them since grammar school, stayed in contact after your girl friends broke up with them, or met them at work or the gym, guy friends are good to have in your life. Despite what you may have heard about overpowering sexual tension and jealous significant others, it really is possible to have platonic relationships with men that give you just as much support as your female BFFs. Girls really can be friends with guys, and here are five reasons why you should be.
1. The Guy Perspective: Whether you’re dating or married, it’s always helpful to have an outside source to help decipher the workings of the male mind. Your guy friend can offer insight on why your cute personal trainer hasn’t asked you out, or why your husband clams up every time you ask him about work. Hearing how your guy friend deals with his relationships, and how he thinks about women, can also help you evaluate what’s going on with your man.
Your guy friends can also offer a different perspective on issues with family and work. We women can often spin ourselves into confusion by considering several angles and possibilities (and conspiracies) at once. Men tend to be more linear thinkers, and often more blunt about dealing with problems. Sometimes you really need someone to look at your frazzled life and go, “Get rid of your toxic friend and stop saying yes every time your boss asks you to work overtime.”
2. Variety in Conversation: I hate to generalize, but there are a lot of women out there who only like to talk about their kids and/or their health problems. Being able to share personal details and get advice on these subjects is part of what makes female friendships great, but if that’s all you ever talk about, your brain is going to turn to mush.
My guy friends are more likely to talk to me about movies, sports, money issues, and politics. Talk to a guy about big screen TVs, fast cars, and good Internet porn, and you’ll have a friend for life who’s always ready to chat. Even if you’ve got girlfriends who enjoy these topics, guys will often look at things from a different angle. The more variety you get in your friendships, and your conversations, the smarter and more interesting you become.
3. The Ego Boost: Sure, it’s superficial, but when you’re feeling like the ugliest girl on the planet, it’s nice to have a cool guy friend to tell you how hot he thinks you are. And after you’ve been married a long time and wonder if your husband is the only man on earth who still thinks you’re attractive, some harmless flirtations with a guy friend can work wonders on your ego. Knowing you’ve still got it is a powerful aphrodisiac, so trust me, your husband will be just as grateful for your guy friends as you are.
4. Back-Up: Police officers aren’t the only ones who need back-up. Having guy friends who can help you move furniture into your new apartment or replace an electrical outlet when it starts glowing red is always a good thing. It’s also handy to have guy friends around to step in if you’re getting harassed at the bar, or some dude at a concert wants to buy the aspirin in your purse that he thinks is Ecstasy. Not that I would know anything about that.
5. Less Drama: While you can easily get mad at your guy friend for saying Dumb Male Things, the fight usually doesn’t last long. Guys tend to argue it out and then promptly forget about it. Your guy friend is probably not going to hold a grudge, or try to turn your mutual friends against you. While it might be irritating that he doesn’t remember how he slighted you last month, you can at least relax, knowing he hasn’t been plotting his revenge all this time.
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