It is difficult for nearly anyone to accept the loss of someone. It hurts even worse when it is the spouse that we loved with all of our heart. It is difficult on the children that they left behind even further. Here are five techniques on how to cope with the loss of a spouse.
Focus On Good Memories
Only let yourself focus on the good memories. Don’t think about any arguments that the two of you may have had in the past otherwise it will drive you nuts making you feel even worse about the situation. Don’t think about the “what if’s” and only keep the good memories in your mind.
Talk To The Minister
If you had a church that you two attended then talking to the minister might help you. Minister can give you plenty of guidance on how to overcome the loss of your spouse on a spiritual level. Church leaders can make you feel happy again several different ways. Some people join a choir to be surrounded by singing songs about the good lord. Don’t feel embarrassed to seek advice from people at the church. A church will welcome you with open arms in most situations.
Therapy sessions can help you out a tremendous amount when dealing with grief. Therapy can help you understand mixed emotions that you and children may feel. You might want to discuss in a therapy session how long to give yourself to mourn before you decide to move on with life. You have to get back out in the date field eventually.
Collect Spouse Social Security Benefits
You have a right to the social security benefits in order to help support you and children. Social Security money can bring a smile to your face each month as a reminder all of the hard work that he or she did to help improve your life and took care of you. Social Security money is not something to feel weird about since he or she would want you to have it in the first place.
Build a Tribute
You could put together a photo with your favorite song playing in the background. You could also make a CD dedicated to your former spouse. You could also write a book about the life of your spouse. You could write about your experience and submit it to Readers Digest. You could write up a nice biography to submit to the local newspaper. You can begin a blog on the web that outlines your healing process. Something like that, can help other people going through the same thing, and be therapeutic as well. Writing can be very therapeutic.
Attend singles events when you feel that you have healed. You may find yourself compare others to your former spouse, but it is okay since most people are understanding. Date others will help you feel more happy again.