Walking out of any abusive relationship is never easy. It is much more difficult to walk out the door in an abusive lesbian relationship due to security issues. Women shelters usually only watch out for males stalking the area which reduces your chance of safety. Women shelters usually don’t have tight security when speaking to a woman that causes a major safety issue for you. You want to leave the abusive person when you know for sure that the person is gone for a long while like in upstate New York visiting Grandma. Here are five techniques women can use to escape an abusive lesbian relationship.
Ask Your Employer to Deduct Money From Your Paycheck
You can hide enough money to leave her by asking your employer to withhold some of your money. Inform them of your situation. You can build up enough money within a few weeks. They can put the deduction as something else. You can blame it on your taxes being withheld or a judgment that was bought against you. You have nothing to worry about as long as the person doesn’t have an accountant or a judge in the family. The employer can keep the real payroll stubs and simply print out a fake one just to make it look good.
Inform Staff Not to Release Your Hotel Room Information
The number one thing to keep in mind is not to stay at any hotels that she might be able to guess that you are located at. Inform the front desk what is going on with you. Tell the staff to not release any information about you to anyone. They can make a note on your account immediately. They can screen calls so that nobody will get to your hotel room. If you don’t feel comfortable telling them that you are leaving an abusive lesbian relationship then just tell them that you’ve just left an abusive relationship.
Do Not Use Public Transportation Immediately
The first place that she is going to be looking for you is the airport and bus station. Do not use those methods to get around town. You might want to rent a car or ask a friend to pick you up at your hotel room. She might be able to track you down if she decides to hang out at the airport all night long. One abusive woman hung out at the airport and bus station for two days straight trying to track down the victim to give the person a coat.
Forward Your Mail Somewhere Out of State
Use any address that are out of the state to have the mail forwarded to. A childhood friend is a good address to use just to have all of your bills sent to then she can send them to you in a big envelope. Remember, any person that is desperate enough to get your forward address just has to write “address service requested” on an envelope addressed to you by their own company. A few weeks later that individual that attempted to get your new address will have it simply by using a real or fake company name on a envelope.
Change Your Bank Account Information
Don’t stop at getting a new card issued to you. Don’t just change your pin number. Close the bank account and get another one immediately at a different bank. Make sure to have the bank disable internet banking and telephone access.
In extreme cases, notify the police that you are simply leaving the state to start a new life from a crazy person so that she can’t file a report as a concerned roommate. You might even have to acquire a new social security number by the social security administration as a victim of abuse since she can track you with the old one. If you have to call your family then make sure to drive one or two states in the opposite direction so that it is more difficult for her to find you. If your family is trust worthy then tell them about the situation, but sometimes it is best to not tell anyone.