Women often ignore the red flags right in front of them regarding a first date with a man. You can usually tell indirectly when someone is abusive right away by clues that he does give away immediately. Men often don’t know the clues that give it away right away that they are a abusive type of person. Here are five unique ways on how to spot an abuser on the first date.
He Demands To Know Where You Live
He won’t talk no for an answer when you would rather not show him where you sleep at night. Some women eventually give in to a mans demands in order to get them to stop asking over and over again. A man displays indirectly that is a control freak. His control freak behavior is almost stalker type. Why would he want to know where you live at? It enables him to spy and stalk you when you least expect it.
You Catch Him Prying At Your Cell Phone
You might accidentally leave your cell phone on the table when you grabbed your purse to go to the restroom then find out when you came back he was looking through it. Perhaps you didn’t catch him actually in the act but you notice that it has been moved or certain things done to it. Perhaps your phone is security locked, but it says that the wrong security thing was entered. Decent men would not dream of going through a woman’s phone when he hardly knows her. Take it as a warning sign that he is prying a little too much when doing this type of thing.
He Treats People Poorly
If he treats people poorly in front of you then it is a bad sign that implies how he will treat you in the future. He may even call everyone a idiot due to lousy service at a restaurant. There is a difference between insult someone directly or a legit complaint. Insults are a form of abuse no matter which way you slice it so don’t so overlook the obvious sign of abusiveness within the person.
He Shifts Blame Towards Everyone
The guy never takes responsibility for his failures in his life. He often switches the blame from him onto to another person regarding problems in his life. He will blame anyone. It doesn’t matter who it is. He may even blame his ex for his bad credit. He may blame his ex for his horrible treatment of women. He may blame his boss for him being fired when he was really a flake. Someone that doesn’t take responsibility for mistakes in their life will eventually blame you as their next victim that has wronged them somehow.
He Puts Down Your Life
He may make rude remarks about your car. He may make rude remarks about your career. He may even go as far to make rude remarks about your income level. He may even make a rude remark regarding the way that you dress. Any man that puts down every aspect of your life is an abusive person that you need to get out of your life immediately. It will only get worse down the road. Sooner or later gifts will not be good enough for him for whichever reason he can manage to think of each year. Some men even insult your hair and the shoes.