I once knew a couple that got remarried due to the children being grown and out of the house while they sat there claiming that things would be different, but it ended in divorce later on the second time around due to abuse in the household. Don’t be foolish into thinking that someone can change after a few weeks in therapy. Here are five warning signs that you shouldn’t marry your former spouse again.
Former Spouse Insists On Keeping Everything A Secret From Everyone
The former spouse insists on keeping the house address a secret from everyone that can come between the two of you. The former spouse refuses to use the house address on nearly everything to the extent of sending all mail to a post office box so that no one knows where you two live at together.
The Former Spouse Exhibits The Same Exact Abuse That You Were A Victim of Abuse From Him
No former spouse can change his abusive ways towards you from a few weeks in therapy. Abusive people can only change when they have a true desire to change and not forced to change through court ordered treatment. Abusive people will not generally change unless someone bigger than him makes them do so through court ordered treatment against their wishes. Don’t be foolish to think that just because it has been several years or ten years that someone is changed. You don’t know how many more woman have been victims at the hands of this person since you.
You Notice The Former Spouse Neglects You
Someone that neglects you does not love you nor values you whatsoever.Neglect is not something that any individual should have to make excuses for in order to feel better it. You catch yourself constantly making excuses for their neglectful behavior is the number one sign that it is time to leave the relationship immediately. You should view neglectful behavior on the same level as medical neglect. Would you stay with someone that failed to take you to the hospital over a life threatening condition? Nobody would answer yes to that question.
Former Spouse Doesn’t Remember Anything Important
He doesn’t acknowledge your birthday anymore. He doesn’t acknowledge the anniversary. He doesn’t even know your age right off the top of his head. The kicker? He doesn’t want to spend time with your children on their birthdays. He has no concern regarding any holiday in the whole world. Any person that doesn’t celebrate or bring you a card does not care at all about you or the kids whatsoever.
He Isolates You From People That Is Important To You
He doesn’t want you to spend time with anyone that you speak to about the relationship. You notice that he becomes more controlling regarding everything in your life. He finds fault in nearly anyone that you have a desire to spend time with on a regular basis. He is jealous of your friends and family members. He finds nearly every excuse in the book to not spend time with them around any holiday and special occasions. He doesn’t want to travel the one thousand miles to spend time with you at the family reunion. He disses all of your family members and any other male.