When I first learned I was going to be a parent 15 years ago, I didn’t realize how much my life would change. Some changes were for the good while others were not so great. I am not complaining by any means because I truly love being a parent, but parenting has been tough, especially now that I am a divorced parent. I can only imagine what I have yet to experience.
Out of shape – The first biggest physical change I noticed was my body was no longer my body. With both pregnancies I gained about the average amount of weight the doctor told me to do. However, getting my body back to pre-pregnancy weight was not as easy as I thought it would be. I am closer to my goal than I ever have been, and someday I hope I will return to the size I once was.
Trying times – Patience is not one of my strong points, and when it comes to the kids, I sometimes have very little. For instance, when we are getting ready to go some place, I will tell them to be ready by a certain time. However, one of them undoubtedly manages to goof around and not be ready at the appointed time. That really aggravates me, and my patience shortens the longer I have to wait on him/her to finish getting ready. Before they were born, I don’t think I really worried too much about anything, but now that they are here, I worry about them when they aren’t with me, like when they are with their dad for the weekend or if they are off with friends for overnight or even a few hours. I think worrying about them just shows we care as a parent.
Social life – I have never really had an abundance of friends, but what little social life I used to have before my children came along, I feel as though it is gone. My current social life is the one they give me through their extracurricular activities. I hang out with parents during ball games, choir concerts, and other assorted school functions. Of course, that is what happens when you have children. Your life revolves around them until they are grown and gone, but even then, you will hopefully still have them in your lives.
Role model – From the time the kids were little, I quickly learned that they watched my every move. They looked up to me for their own actions, and sometimes words, so I had to make sure that whatever I did or said were positive things. I know I should be a positive person all the time, but sometimes negative things do happen, things that upset me causing me not to be positive.
Little things – As my children have grown older, I am learning that I need to enjoy the little things in life that they do. I realize that within just a few short years my daughter, who is 14 years old, will graduate from high school, go to college and who knows from there. When she is gone, I won’t have as many memories of her. I also realize that life is too short not to enjoy the little things because you never know from one day to the next what will happen.