We’ve all caught ourselves angry at one point in our life. It’s all part of being human. Unfortunately, while we are raged it’s hard to keep stop ourselves from doing something we’re going to later regret. Don’t let your anger get the best of you! By following these tips, you can help manage your anger, and make sure you calm down before you get further into an issue.
Take a Break
If you’re having an argument with a family member, tell them you need some time to cool down. It takes about 30 minutes for adrenaline to wear off, for most people. Walk away, and plan a different time to discuss the topic. That way you won’t make any mistakes, or let your anger get the better of you.
Listen to Music
Whenever I get in a fight, I listen to loud music to help wear off the nerves. Then, after I’m feeling better, I’ll turn on the radio and sing along to cheerful music. It gets me in a better mood so I don’t stay angry for long.
By meditating, you can allow yourself to cool down. Take a yoga class if you haven’t before so that you know what to do next time you are angry. Breath in and out slowly and deeply. Close your eyes, and try to forget everything that’s going around you. Try to not think about what made you angry, but rather on putting yourself somewhere far away and very calm.
Write it Out
I’ve never really done this myself now as much as I did when I was little, but many people have found this to help them a lot. Write out all your feelings, why you are upset, what it’s about, etc. Even the slightest details, put it all out there! Reread the letter in fifteen minutes and see if it’s as big of a deal as it was before. Chances are, you’ll show yourself that you were a little out of line and it doesn’t matter as much as it did then. Make sure you rip it up once you are done writing it out!
Find Ways to Let it Out
When I say this, I mean healthy ways. Some people are more aggressive, and while they try to find ways to take it out on others, it will never end positively. When I was little and got in a fight with my brother, I’d always go in my room and scream into my pillow and give myself time to let all the steam out so I wouldn’t do anything that would get me in trouble.
If you’re still having problems finding good ways to get your anger out, seek a professional. It’s not something to be ashamed of. Every person is different. Wanting ultimate self-control is never a bad thing, but something that you should strive for!