Thinking about getting a divorce? Before you do, make sure you’re ready. There are usually signs that you’re not prepared to leave a marriage. When you see them, stay put and don’t do anything drastic that will end your relationship.
Sign #1: You’re unsure.
You’re still struggling with the idea of cutting ties with your husband. This mental battle is a sign you’re not ready for a divorce. Inside, you truly want to work things out. Remain connected a bit longer with your spouse until you on sure of your feelings.
Sign #2: You’re full of rage.
Anger often blinds us to the truth. For this reason, you should never make a major decision based on this emotion. Wait to call an attorney after you’ve cooled off. Then, (if you haven’t changed your mind) go through with your plan.
Sign #3: You’re a newlywed.
You haven’t even celebrated your first-year anniversary. You want to run now because the fairy tale is officially over; marriage takes a lot of hard work. This epiphany is a sign you’re not ready for divorce. You’re just learning what love really is about and need to endure this process until the end.
Sign #4: Your child is a mess.
No, you shouldn’t stay with anyone permanently for a child, but you should temporarily when your offspring is an emotional or physical mess. A young person who’s fighting a mental condition and/or a chronic disease may go down hill further if a family split ensues. As a result, hold off on your divorce until your child’s condition is more stable.
Sign #5: Your spouse is your BFF.
You only want to dump him over a mistake he recently made. Outside of his error, all else has been well between you two. This latter truth is a sign you’re not ready for a divorce. You have to understand your spouse is human. He will do stupid things on occasion (just like you). Keep this in mind and forgive him.
Sign #6: You don’t want a divorce.
You only asked for one in order to manipulate your spouse or on the advice of a misguided friend. Don’t follow through with something as serious as divorce unless you truly want to. If you do, you will regret your action for the rest of your life. Make-up and only mention the “D” word in the future when you really mean it.
Sign #7: You’re acting out of guilt.
You messed up royally by cheating on your husband or running up bills to the point you’re both deep in debt. Instead of complicating your situation more by seeking a divorce, be grateful your husband is willing to let things go. Take his benevolent attitude as a sign you’re not ready for divorce (from a man like him) and focus on amending your ways.
Take these seven signs to heart and maintain your status. Avoid being part of a rising statistic of divorce for a poor reason.