It is the most important day of your life as a bride, but you know it just will not be the same without your loved ones who passed in attendance. Be it your sibling, parent or grandparent, it is all just as painful and hard to handle. There are many ways to honor and remember the deceased that you can add into your ceremony or reception to make it something everyone will appreciate.
One of the easiest ways to remember a loved one is to light a Memorial candle near the front of the church after you say your vows. Ask the official to speak a few kind words about your loved one. They can be anything from how much you wanted them there or how much they would have liked to be there, to some funny stories about them.
Charms are a great alternative if you don’t want the remembrance to be so public. Easily done, you simply have either special charms that you loved ones like or a picture of them fastened to your bouquet. So then they will be with you the entire time. You may even be able to find a charm that allows you to inserts a small picture of the person inside.
Having their own seat-
Something I have seen practiced more often is the seat of honor. This is where an empty seat is kept in the front row, right along the aisle, and as the bride walks by it she places a rose or another important object on the seat.
Prayer & Moment of silence-
A perfect simple way to acknowledge your loved ones is to have a moment of silence or prayer. Ask your officiant to say a few words or a prayer and have a few moments of silence to remember. You can write your own prayer, or see what your officiant can come up with.
The Wedding Program-
This is similar to the charms, but is more of a quiet memorial for your loved one. You can list them in the wedding program however you want. Be it as a honarary groomsmen or as a special guest from above. It s your choice. Anyway you go it will still be a sweet token of remembrance.
Pictures can be lined up on a table, or hung on wall. Anywhere you put pictures, the sentiment is there. This way all the guests can enjoy remembering together as a family, the way weddings should be. If there is no room for tons of pictures, you can put them in an album and pass it around during the reception.
Post wedding tribute-
If you are looking for something that you and your new husband can do alone, especially if the death was recent, take the bouquet, or a specially designated bouquet and place it on the grave after the wedding. If the deceased would have been a groomsmen, you could consider placing a boutonniere at the grave site, along with a picture.
However you decide to remember your loved ones is up to you, do not let anyone try and bully you into a memorial if you really do not think you can handle it. This is your day to celebrate. Do not forget that and remember your loved ones are looking down on you smiling on your joyous day/