I think that the topic of adoption is an important one to cover. But First I would like to give the definition of adopt. According to the Oxford American Desk Dictionary and Thesaurus adopt means to legally take another’s child as one’s own. You also can’t have a good article with out some statistics to back up the facts. The following are some of those statistics. Many Americans are personally affected by adoption. 6 in 10 Americans have personal experience with adoption. 37.5% of adoption is done through private agencies. Only 2% of unmarried women choose to place their child for adoption. Only 1% of teen pregnancies result in adoption placement.
Now that we got the statistics out of the way, let’s talk about the actual adoption shall we. I am adopted as are all my siblings. I have no recollection of my mother since I was adopted as an infant, but there are some children who were with their birth parents for a while. So they may have some memory of them, but some of those memories may be terrible ones. The reason my mother gave for not keeping me was because she wasn’t ready emotionally or financially for a baby. She wanted me to have the best possible chance and the best way for her to do that was through adoption. I am glad she did, I was raised in a loving home. I harbor no ill feelings towards my mother for giving me up.
Adoption is a very loving thing to do. If you feel like you can’t take care of the baby yourself and you don’t have anyone to help you with it then adoption is a good option. Give that child a fighting chance at a good life. For some women it maybe a difficult choice to have to make but it maybe your only choice, do what you know is right for that child. If you a little apprehensive about the process there are people you can speak to that can explain everything to you. They can put you at ease. Some people want to remain in contact with there child and in some cases this may be okay. This kind of adoption is called an open adoption in this case the birth mother and adoptive family knows each other. The parental rights of the birth parents are still terminated but the birth parents may still see the child if the adoptive parents allow it.
Now let’s talk a little about adopting a child. Sure it’s a tedious process, the paperwork, all the pictures of those cute kids and babies to go through. Then let’s not forget the home evaluations and tests to see if you would make a decent parent. Don’t let all that stop you from at least thinking about it especially if for some reason you have been told by your doctor that you can’t have children of your own. Just like for those birth parents looking to give up their child or children there are resources for those looking to adopt as well. There are many different routes to take you can use your local children services or a private agency. It really is up to you which you use.
Before bringing that child into your home make sure you know the full background of that child and the child’s family. You will want to know if there has been any sexual abuse or abuse of any kind in that child’s biological family. Especially if this is an older child you are adopting. Make sure to get any and all health records for babies and older children. This may come in handy if the child becomes sick and the doctor asks for health information on the family. The more you know about the birth family the better off you will be.
Don’t keep the fact that your child is adopted from them, because one day they might notice that something is different about them. Let them know from the time they are old enough to understand, and always love them like they are yours. Like I said earlier I am glad that my mother gave me the opportunity to have a great live. I don’t know where I would be today if she hadn’t. So thank you mom for loving me enough to give me to a loving family.
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