What do you do about a teenage girl who thinks she is in love with that guy that has the word TROUBLE written across his forehead? Is there anything you can do to keep your daughter away from this guy?
Talking from experience of being both the teenager in love way back when and the mother of a teenager who fell for the same kind of trouble when she was a teen, I can say that there is probably not much you can do about it.
If you try and stop her from seeing him she will sneak out of the house and go behind your back and meet with him given every opportunity available to her. She will skip school, if he doesn’t go to the same school as her or he is out of school and she will sneak out of the house in the middle of the night and even speak with him through her bedroom window if you take away her computer or cell phone. If they have too they will see each other by climbing though basement windows. It won’t matter how they have to be together, they will find a way.
There does not seem to be anything more powerful than a teenager in love or one that thinks he or she is in love. They truly believe they will stop breathing if that person is taken from their lives. Today we understand that this is actually a chemical and hormonal reaction. It is like having a drug that makes you feel good suddenly stopped and pulled away from you. Understanding that this all-consuming love has a much to do with science and chemistry as it does everything else that is combining to cause this chemical reaction.
One question you should be asking yourself if you have children in your house that are entering their teens is when can we expect this to happen? It seems to happen after the age of fourteen but before the age of eighteen. The best thing we can hope for during this time is that the fire burns itself out quickly. If you set boundaries but don’t try and stop the pairing it may help the relationship run its course. The other side of that coin however may be that your teen has found the person they are going to marry. It could very well be the case.
Does this sound like there is pretty much nothing you can do when it comes to love and teens? Unfortunately yes, that pretty well says it all. You need to buckle up, take a lot of vitamin C and get ready for the ride.