Everyone has always pretty much ignored the nerdy and geeky men of the world. They were portrayed in the media as overly-intellectual doofuses, running around reciting the chemical element charts with a pocket protector, scientific calculator and thick glasses held together with tape.
These were the same guys that everybody tripped in the hallways in high school and laughed at. These were also the same guys whose test papers you would sneak a look at during a test because you knew they would always have the right answers. These were the guys that caused you to do strategic planning to make sure you sat next to them in the harder classes, so you could ask them questions and cheese off their notes. You’d see them in the high school cafeteria heaped up at one table praying that nobody would bother them, so they could sit and debate the true meaning of Occam’s Razor and planetary alignment.
Suddenly, with the popularity of the television series, “Big Bang Theory”, the women of the world are sitting up and taking notice. Yes, intellectual men are sexy. They always have been. This is something I realized in fifth grade.
I had my first crush on a classmate that resembled a carpenter ant, carried a briefcase and came to school in business casual attire every day. Who in the heck carries a briefcase in fifth grade? I remember the first thing he said to me was “Hey, do you collect stuff?”. I was like, “Uh, no.” He then said, “Well, you should see my collection of antique locks and skeleton keys.” After that he offered me a piece of Bazooka Bubble Gum and we proceeded to sit there and blow bubbles at each other while he explained how bubble gum was made and what viscosity meant. I was immediately smitten until I found out that it was not cool to associate with the geeks and nerds. That was during my frivolous childhood. Now, as an adult, I realize that nerds, geeks and super-intellectuals are, once again, what’s happening.
Throughout my life I have always been very much drawn to intellectual types, but the call of cool, bad boys always won me over and also got me into a lot of trouble. I also always felt mentally incompetent around intellectual men until I myself entered the realm of intellectuals and got a B.S. in Information Technology. Between that and the fact that I wear glasses and kind of look like a librarian or school marm with a little va-va-va-voom, I suddenly began to attract nerdy, geeky guys and then I remembered why those types had been my first crushes.
Since my divorce and re-entry into the horrifying world of dating, I went back to my roots and only dated intellectuals, nerds and geeks. There is nothing more exciting to me than a man with a brain like a micro-chip and a sarcastic wit that fires at will like a semi-automatic machine gun. Any other positive attributes, which he might possess, are the icing on the proverbial cake.
There is something about the aloofness, the intensity, the intellectual awareness, the practical thinking and the driven attitudes of men of this caliber. Ladies, don’t think that this intensity and awareness will not carry over into every aspect of a relationship with a geek or nerd. It makes for a very interesting relationship.
The problem is that guys like this often seek a kindred intellectual spirit. They get off on women with whom they can banter about biochemical engineering, string theory and quantum physics. (like Miyam Bialik’s character on Big Bang Theory). Yet, these types often get so little attention that they may date a bubble-head if she tosses herself at him hard enough, but it usually won’t last.
Intellectual men like intense conversation and intellectually stimulating activities (in more ways then one). They will not hang around long if they realize that they are dating a total airhead whose idea of a mathematical equation is “okay, so like the mall closes at 9:00 and it’s now like 8:47 and it takes like 12 minutes to get from my car to like Nordstroms, so that will give me…uh…like 1 minute to shop.”
Okay, so is Jim Parsons (the Sheldon character on Big Bang Theory) sexy? I would say yes, but then again I’ve always secretly had the hots for Bill Gates and Cornell West.
You want to know how geeky and nerdy I am? Probably not, but I’m going to tell you anyway.
On the second date with my significant other, we sat beneath the stars and discussed every evolutionary theory we could thing of. When I mentioned Darwin’s Theory of Evolution and how human beings may have evolved from primates he said, “Okay, if that’s true, then why do monkeys and apes still exist and why haven’t they evolved? Gotta love it!