In my web surfing this morning I landed on the Big Fat Blog – that’s their name, really, at http://www.BigFatBlog.com. As a self-described Former Fat Girl (and that’s a very recent “former” if you’re new here), I was intrigued enough to click on the link and peruse their offerings. Most of the posts point out things similar to what I have issue with – the ridiculous hoopla surround Gabourey Sidibe and Howard Stern (I’m not sure which is more absurd… Stern’s remarks or that people actually tune in to listen to him), the prejudice against fat people, etc. I was all set to comment, agreeing with a smartly written blog post when I realized that I had to register in order to do so. Fine, okay, I clicked over, but on their registration page they state the following:
Big Fat Blog (BFB) is a site devoted to fat acceptance. Please don’t register if:
- You are on a diet;
- You are interested in losing weight now (or possibly in the future, maybe – like you’re actively planning on it);
- You are having, or are interested in having, weight loss surgery of any kind;
- You believe fat is a disease which must be cured;
- You want to post one comment and vanish forever;
- You like posting about your caloric intake, what you ate today, etc.;
- You run a diet blog;
- You think this is a dating site or want to pick up some “hot fat chicks”;
- You think this site has anything to do with Old Navy and/or Mo’Nique.
I’m okay with the last few — I don’t understand why anyone who want to write about their daily caloric intake let alone read it (I hate diet blogs… no one wants to listen to you whine about your low fat yogurt or your recipe for ice cream made from fat free sour cream), I get the disclaimer that this isn’t a dating website or a celebrity worship or shopping site – that’s fine.
But if you’re on a diet, you can’t join?
If you are even considering decreasing your body weight, they don’t want you? Sounds more like they want you to be actively working towards being fat than accepting you for the weight and size that works for you. Isn’t that true acceptance? Ah, but they are not about “body acceptance” they are about “fat acceptance.” Militantly about it, as its content is driven by The Fat Rights Coalition. Their goal is for fat acceptance, but the content and statements they make, make me feel like if they knew about me – a former fat girl, someone who slimmed down from a size 18 to a size 6, they would hate me. Hate me without finding out about how my blood pressure is lower, my risk for diabetes lowered, my knees don’t ache, and my life expectancy lengthened without the risk of heart disease that my weight brought.
Is it ok to be as absolutely pro-fat as the rest of the world is anti-fat? Why isn’t Pro-Health on anyone’s agenda?