I’m not a bombshell, but I like to think that I’m attractive. I was told that a lot growing up, at least. Maybe they were just being sarcastic. But one thing that I noticed is that a lot of black girls would look at me up and down, and grab a hold of their boyfriend like I wanted him or something. I never wanted their sorry boyfriend…
But maybe they could sense that their boyfriend wanted me. When they weren’t around, their boyfriend would sneak and ask me for my number, or ask if they can come to my home. They used to do the same thing to one of my close friends-another girl that was reasonably attractive. They all would act like they didn’t want her when people were around, then they will come running up to her when no one was in sight.
It was almost like they had some kind of shame in talking to us. I used to cry about it. I felt rejected by boys because I was never good enough to walk around with in the public eye. They never wanted to be seen with me, and one boy that I was dating went as far as telling me that he didn’t want anyone to know we were together. That hurt me.
My mom used to tell me they were just intimidated, but I didn’t feel like that was the truth. I just thought they simply didn’t value me. But after a while, I took a close look at other black girls that were having trouble in the dating world, and many of them were pretty girls.
I now I think black men are intimidated by a beautiful black woman, but not just any kind of beauty. They are intimidated by ultra femme beauty or prissy beauty–the kind of beauty you draw and paint on your face, then you put on high heels and fruity perfume and prance around.
Black men don’t like women like that. They like women who put on a pair of sneakers, jeans, a t-shirt and little lip gloss. I don’t know why they like women like that. Is it because they’re more laid back, is it because they’re easier to approach, or because they’re less intimidating? It could be all of the above.
I like to look pretty, as well as most other women do. But my beauty doesn’t do very well attracting good black men anyway. I do a pretty good job with attracting white men, however. I think black women can now sense that. I think they can sense that I and black men have now agreed to not want each other. Now black women are actually nice to me. They actually speak and smile at me more than they ever have.
I guess they no longer see me as a threat…
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