My husband is a nice guy. He works hard, earns a good living, and has the biggest heart of any man I’ve ever known. But when it comes to finances, he’s oblivious. I handle everything from paying for trash collection to choosing mutual funds, not to mention I’ve been known to hold my own in the income-earning department.
We recently purchased a second home – a small bungalow across the street from our daughter – in anticipation of grandchildren. The home was chosen, purchased, closed and partly furnished before my husband even stepped inside it. I even had his Special Power of Attorney for closing because he was out of town on business.
Imagine my frustration then, when all the legal documents concerning this business transaction contained either his name only, or his name listed first. Many people may think this is no big deal. “What difference does it make?” asked one friend of mine. To me, it makes a big difference.
I’m not a “women’s libber,” out there protesting, carrying signs demanding equal pay for equal work (although that does seem like a no-brainer), but I do expect respect and equal status in my marriage as well as business. To me, the fact that businesses automatically list the husband’s name only or always list it first, is a type of emotional discrimination and subjugation.
I am well aware that there are women in other parts of our world still fighting for the most basic of human rights, and I don’t mean to undermine their struggles with my superficial rant. But this is the America, and in my opinion, it’s about darn time we start practicing what we preach. Who’s with me?