Infidelity is always a hot topic and both men and women have very strong opinions on it. It is the Christian way to turn the other cheek and always forgive those who have wronged us, yet this can be a very difficult hill to climb when it comes to cheating. If you have discovered that your husband has had either an emotional or a sexual affair with another woman, you may be asking yourself whether it is really and truly possible to forgive him. This article will offer some points to consider when posed with this difficult task. Fortunately, I have never been in this position myself, rather, this article is based on information and words of wisdom I have received from several friends, women I highly respect and admire.
Is Your Husband Contrite And Willing To Take Responsibility For His Actions. Though you would assume that any husband caught in an affair would immediately beg for forgiveness and take full responsibility for his actions, this is not always the case. If he his sincerely sorry for his crushing betrayal of your marriage vows, and knows that no behavior or shortcomings excuses the affair, you may find it far easier to begin the challenge of forgiving him.
Is Your Husband Willing To Put In The Effort To Repair The Relationship? Many couples are forced to confront the problems and issues that have been present in the marriage for a long time prior to an affair. It is safe to say that more often than not, an affair is the bi product of serious marriage issues, rather than a simple lapse in judgment, or an overwhelming and unexpected burst of passion for someone other than your spouse. If your husband is willing to seek marital counseling, pastoral advisement or good, practical advice from a licensed therapist, it can make seeking to forgive your husband much more appealing.
Do You Believe That Forgiveness Is A Gift You Give Yourself? Forgiving your spouse for transgressions, even one as devastating as infidelity can truly be a gift you give yourself. Holding on to anger and bitterness is very emotionally taxing. It leaves little room for peace and joy. When you realize that truly forgiving your husband for cheating will lighten the emotional load you carry, and help to pave the way for a more peaceful and happy life.
Do You Accept The Fact That Forgiveness Is A Process? Forgiving your spouse for an act of infidelity can go in stages. The feelings of betrayal, embarrassment and anger may take many months to fade. As you both work on your marriage and see that he is working hard to regain your trust, those feelings can be replaced with more positive and loving emotions. Your heart will slowly become lighter and forgiveness can take the place of the hard bitterness.
Forgiving your husband for an extra marital affair can be achieved, albeit with a great amount of hard work. Choosing to stay in the marriage after your husband has had an affair is a completely different animal. Whether you choose to stay, or opt to leave, forgiving him for his transgression is just as beneficial to yourself, as it is to him.