Previously published in |Examiner
Part 11 of the tips for caregivers series
Caregivers often feel isolated with no one to understand their issues. Being a caregiver puts a physical and emotional strain upon the body and psyche.
Here are some tips to help Montreal caregivers help themselves:
First of all, it is okay to acknowledge being tired. Asking for help does not mean you have failed in your role as a caregiver. Too many caregivers feel that they must do it all and then collapse from sheer exhaustion. Ask for the help you need from family or friends or social services; do not feel you must do it all yourself. Just because you are the father as determined by a paternity DNA test, you are not superman, you need help and just because you are “the good daughter” taking care of her widowed mother, you are not a bad person if you get some outside help. As a caregiver you will not be helping the sick or disabled person in your charge if you become sick yourself.
Caregivers need to feel that people understand. Perhaps you are a caregiver and you really do not get any support from your family. They may feel that job is yours and yours alone. For example, a husband may feel that it is his job to go out and work to make a living while the wife stays home and do everything else. Examples like these puts a big strain upon a caregiver’s ability to cope with everything. And if you are not able to get family members to understand what you are going through, you will become very frustrated and feel totally alone.
The good news is that you are not alone you can join a support group for caregivers in your area. These people will not only reinforce that you are not alone, but that you are in deed a part of a network of caregivers. The support group will also help you with coping skills and suggestions on how to get your family more involved.
Information for caregivers in the Montreal Area
Memory and Alzheimer’s Help in Montreal