Studies show that anywhere from 11% to 35% of people have or will cheat. Statistics say that 70% of married women, didn’t know their husband had an affair. 54% of married men, didn’t know their wife had an affair. Approximately 80% of men who admitted to having an affair said it was purely for sexual reason. While only 20% of women who admitted to having an affair, said it was for sexual reasons. Men and women cheat on their spouses or significant others for very different reasons. A man usually cheats for sexual reasons, while a women tends to cheat for emotional reasons. Infidelity within a relationship can lead to divorce or a break up, if the relationship lasts there’s often trust issues.
While the statistics are always changing, no one wants to be a part of them. There are things that can be done to help cheat proof a marriage or relationship.
Connecting with your partner is important. It’s important to take time and just talk. Take time to focus on each other. Use that time to talk about each other’s day, remember the past, plan for the future or have those silly talks, like when you first fell in love. Make time to just talk.
There’s a time to dig in deep with your partner. People emotionally vulnerable, yet safe with someone will develop a deeper bond. Not only will being emotionally vulnerable create a deeper bond, it will allow a couple to share deeply with each other. It’s important to focus on your partner when you’re both digging deep and being very personal. A good time to give a hug and let your partner know, you’re there for them.
Oxytocin is the bonding hormone. When couples touch each other it releases the oxytocin hormone. This can cause a happy bonding feeling. Take time to give a little more special kiss each day, hold hands in the car or watching television or a little back rub. Make sure you touch your partner and not just in a sexual way.
Appreciate your partner and what they do for you. Life isn’t a fairytale and every day is not wine and roses, anyone in a relationship knows that. Focusing on the bad that someone does will lead to them feeling unappreciated or worthless. That’s a dangerous place but an easy place for cheating or an emotional affair to happen. Make sure your partner knows you appreciate them and what they do for you or even what they do for others. Let your partner know, you’re engaged in the marriage or relationship.
Think about why you love each other and share those thoughts with each other. A little love note, text, email, phone call or something to make your partner smile. Also, it let’s your partner know you’re thinking about them and engaged in the relationship.
Do things you both enjoy together. Couples get caught up in day to day life and forget to have fun. Have fun and enjoy each other. Make it a point to do something fun together frequently.
Keep changing up your sex life. Many couples or a partner will state that their sex life is boring. Spice up the sex life and enjoy your partner. Think of different locations to make love, different positions, different time of day and don’t forget to be playful. Be spontaneous not predictable.
Make sure your partner knows they are your best friend. They are the person you connect with and go to. When your partner knows they are number one in your life, that insecurity or need to look to someone else to get their needs met, won’t be there. They will be with you and the healthy relationship you both share.
No relationship can be guaranteed to be cheat proof. It’s your relationship. It will be as healthy and as strong as the people working to keep it that way. Marriages and relationships take time, put in the effort and enjoy the rewards.