While choosing a mentor, consider the logistics of the mentoring relationship. It’s important to think about things such as communication methods, scheduling and possibly payment.
1. Think about what communication method(s) you prefer for your mentoring relationship. Perhaps you desire to have in person communication. Getting out with someone and having eye to eye contact may be very important to you. On the other hand, it may be cumbersome for you to get out and meet someone on a regular basis and/or you may not know of anyone close by who can mentor you. Maybe you prefer to connect with your mentor by telephone. You might even prefer to only communicate with your mentor by e-mail. If your schedule is very different from that of your mentor, e-mail may work out better. When thinking about the communication method you prefer, ask yourself with which one you feel you can be the most honest and open. That openness and honesty will help you get the most out of your mentoring experience.
2. Find out the availability of who you are considering having as your mentor. Does that person’s availability match what you are seeking? Do you want to connect daily, weekly or monthly? What kind of time commitment can this person make to you?
3. If you choose a mentor who charges for mentoring services, be sure that you are clear about the timing, the amount and the method of payment. This will help you to avoid misunderstandings about payment that could potentially interfere with the mentoring relationship. In many cases, a mentor does not charge fees, especially if it’s someone you know personally. On the other hand, some eating disorder mentors and coaches do charge for their services. There are expenses involved in having a website plus mentors have other bills to pay like everyone else. Also, it’s possible that if they do not charge for their mentoring services, they would not be able to provide these services because they would not have the time to do so if they had to work at other jobs. In some cases, a paid mentor may have increased availability and even be able to communicate with you on a daily basis.
Consider the logistics of communication, scheduling and payment when choosing a mentor. And above all, pray. That may sound like a pat answer, but it really is the best thing you can do. God knows whether you need a mentor, and if so, the best person to take on that role in your life. You can trust Him since He loves you and always has your best interest in mind.