Relationships all have their own ups and downs. Some relationships (and we’ve all seen them) tend to be more like a roller coaster ride than an actual relationship. Some people break up with each other periodically just to get back together. Break-ups in these types of relationships can be fueled by the smallest instances. If you and your partner find yourselves breaking up over every little fight, that is probably an indication that you are not supposed to be together.
Roller coaster romances can be fun to some people and can also add a bit of uncertainty (something certain people find exciting). However, if you want to be in a serious, mature relationship the two of you shouldn’t be breaking up after every argument. Constant break-ups are a sign of a relationship that is not mature. It actually reminds me of high school. You remember, everybody is always breaking up and getting back together for the simple drama of it. But, after high school, people should mature, not to say that everybody does. If a break-up is initiated over a simple argument (ex. you hung up on the other person, you were talking to a member of the opposite sex etc.), it is usually to show that the person who initiated the break-up has control over the relationship. If you are the one who is constantly getting broken up with for little or no reason. end it yourself. Why would you want to be in a relationship that is so unsure?
If an argument is serious and can’t be talked through, a break-up is something that can be considered. However, if the two of you have been together for a long amount of time and these break-ups keep happening you might want to question why. A person’s own insecurities can fuel a break-up over a small argument. Perhaps they want to see how much they can get away with before you call it quits. Testing boundaries is a perfectly normal part of a relationship but when it comes to holding the word “break-up” over the head of your partner, you might want to think about the relationship. Is all the fighting worth it? Does your partner thrive on the drama of each break-up? Are they testing you to see if you will go out with somebody else? If the answer is yes to any of those questions, you have found yourself in a relationship that is NOT mature.
To anybody who is always being broken up with over these stupid little arguments, get out of the relationship before you get too attached. Chances are, if the problems are this severe now, they will only get worse.