It is apparent when you genuinely want to be around people and talk with them. Does your face light up whenever you approach someone you know? On the other hand, if it is someone you do not know, you may have the opposite reaction. When interacting with people that you actually want to get to know, be approachable.
When you see friends or acquaintances instead of saying only “hi” or “how are you?”, initiate conversation with a question beyond those typical greetings. Consider these general topics to pull from in forming conversations: weather, food, hobbies, work, academics, physical fitness, weekend plans.
People tend to form opinions about others based on their interactions with them. Focus on what you are trying to communicate. Be conscious of your body language and tone of voice. Identify feelings you are experiencing and decide the appropriateness of communicating what you are feeling to someone else. Share your thoughts tactfully and respectfully.
Recognize what your nervous ticks are. Do you smile or eat too much at social events? If you are at a large gathering, try to stay away from the food and the chairs lined against the wall for a while, and introduce yourself to people. Sometimes people may be a little hesitant to speak to each other because they are uncertain about possible negative reactions, but most people are actually very friendly.
Practice reciprocity, if someone is asking you questions and trying to make conversation, reciprocate by asking them questions. People generally love to talk about themselves. Listen to what they say and think before speaking. In a lot of situations, you may find yourself not paying attention to the other person talking because you are thinking of what to say next. Lastly, accept responsibility for your words and actions. Words can take root in the human heart, and change lives for better or for worse.