My boyfriend has seemed cold and distant lately, and he isn’t giving me the same level of attention that he was giving me before. Sometimes he goes out with his friends (supposedly) and doesn’t comeback until like four in the morning, and he never stays out that late. A couple months ago, he would only go out with his friend’s twice a month, now it is twice a week, and he is always out very late, this is not like him. Is this normal? Could he be cheating on me, and lying about going out with his friends? Confused Maribell.
Well, Maribell, don’t jump to conclusions, the core of a relationship is always communication. If you are so concerned that he is cheating, ask him. But most likely, the excitement of the early part of your relationship is over, so he is trying to fill that excitement somewhere else, but honestly I cannot tell you either way if he cheating or not. The best thing you can do, is one communicate your feelings, and two put a little spice back in your love life, he needs to feel special, and a good relationship, is one that both sides are always working on to make it the best union for both parties. Tell him you want to spend more time with him, and entice him with new and spontaneous activities both of you haven’t tried before. Just put your mind at ease, because sometimes we like to take things out of context, even if it doesn’t have to be. I hope I helped -April
I have been married for 24 years and counting, and let’s just say, that we are not intimate very often anymore. I love my wife, but sometimes I feel like I have to beg her to want any form of intimacy from me. Is there something wrong with me? Does she not want me anymore? What should I do? Frank at a loss for words?
I think part of it, is that you have been married for almost 25 years, and after seeing the same face for so long it gets boring. I wonder if she has a lowered libido, it is very common, especially in women reaching the menopause age. Stress, can also play a major role, in a lack of sex drive. She might need to seek a doctor’s advice depending on her symptoms. Also, has she had a baby recently, has one of her loved one’s recently died, or any other major event happened, because anything major can effect sex drive. Either way, communicate your concerns in a loving manor that is respectful. Sex is important, but a strong relationship built around trust and good communication are more important. -April
The guy I am seeing right now is indecisive, and he goes back and forth from being lovers to being friends. We have been seeing each other off and on for six months. When I first starting seeing him I was four months pregnant and he knew that. He hasn’t had a serious girlfriend since he was 22 and she broke his heart, and since then he has only been in 3 relationships all lasting less that 6 months, including our relationship. He is 31 and I think that is too old for him to be that indecisive. The only thing he ever told me is that he is afraid of getting hurt so he never allows himself to get too close. I have fallen in love with him, and I have been trying to convince him to want a serious relationship with me. I want him to let down his walls. Do you think he will ever do that, or should I just move on to someone who is willing to commit? Sick of the back and forth Lydia
It is very understandable your frustration, I would be frustrated also if I were in your shoes. It sounds like he is afraid to commit, because he was hurt in the past and he doesn’t want to go through that again. You can tell him, that you will not hurt him, and that you will respect him and treat him with kindness, and remind him how important he is to you. You could wait until he is ready for a serious relationship, or you could walk away. It is a hard decision, but obviously you must decide something, good luck with your decision Lydia. -April