Gentlemen, let us come to an understanding. Not all girls are into you. Not all girls think you are cute, funny, smart, etc. What girls are into, however, is a genuine man that acts his age and can open the door for a girl and then grab her hand as she walks through. A man that will make her feel beautiful even when she feels she is not looking her best and can make her smile when she is down.
So you ask, how the hell do I do that?! With a combination of specific attributes, experiences, emotions and motivations, this can be achieved.
To ascribe cause to something, credit somebody with something, assign qualities to somebody, and quality of property.
Everyone has positive attributes. It does not matter what you look like, how you act or where you live. You need to realize that you have positive attributes that someone will like and fall in love with. Take a moment to think about the attributes that you have. With these in mind, think of the type of girl that these attributes would attract. Make sure these attributes come across naturally and not pretentiously. You are now on your way to standing out.
Involvement in something over time, knowledge or skill acquired, something that happens to somebody, or knowledge from observation.
Experiences are the meat and potatoes of dating. If you have been in a relationship before, you may have some tricks up your sleeve (whaaaaat?! Tricks up your sleeve?! That sounds incredibly deceiving.). But don’t compare new dating experiences to previous relationships, it only causes tension. Now if you are new to the whole dating thing, you may actually be at an advantage. People that have been in previous relationships often find themselves trying to work the same techniques that landed them their last woman. If that woman was one you could see yourself marrying, then you’re golden. If not, you may have some adjusting to do. A man that has never dated or has only had short relationships has a clean slate to work with. This clean slate may be the golden ticket to the chocolate factory for the inexperienced men, who will have an easier time acting genuine on a date.
Gaining knowledge from observation is priceless, whether or not you have dating experience. It’s easy to do. Go out to a public location and watch what is happening around you. Watch how the guy treats his significant other. Notice the little things he does, and note how the girl responds. Generally, most females are alike and respond to gestures, comments, and actions in the same manner. It’s important to know her likes and dislikes before trying anything too serious. Simply knowing what kind of soda she likes can make all the difference in a simple situation like going to a movie.
Heightened feelings, agitation caused by strong feelings.
Giving of reason to act, enthusiasm, reason, and forces determining behavior.
Here it comes guys, the final piece of the puzzle. Emotions can work for or against you. If a girl gives you a knot in your beer belly, you have some emotions at work. If you make a girl sick to her stomach, make her hair stand up because you creep her out or make her break out because of the stress you cause her, then you are not doing so well in the emotional category. Be careful with female emotions. They are not like your drinking buddies. Girls do not just forget about an argument over a beer like us guys do. They talk with their “girlfriends” and then gossip about it, and then they talk to their mom about it, and then they talk some more and more and more about it. Just don’t get involved in the emotions if you don’t know the girl very well.
Motivations are also a very influential piece of the whole picture. If a girl just thinks you want in her pants, she may stand you up. If she thinks you have ulterior motives, she may just toy with you and waste your time. BUT, if your motives are genuine, you are going to get somewhere. Let your true inner-self shine. You have it in you to score your dream woman.
I will leave you with my perspective of a girl that thinks she’s “boss momma,” – a hard personality for a male to crack. I consider her personality good but only when needed (warding off other girls, potential male threats) and I like to think that I can make her melt in my hand when she’s on my schedule. Remember, practice makes good and no one is perfect!