Are you over the age of 50 and interested in getting back into the dating scene? Are you unsure on how to go about in finding and attracting love? To help understand how dating over the age of 50 could be different from the younger age groups, places you can find love and ten ways to attract love, I have interviewed therapist Janet Holt.
Tell me a little bit about yourself?
“I am a counselor and a writer. My job is to help people solve problems and make sense of their lives. I do that by individual counseling, writing books and helping people record their personal histories. I am also a gerontologist, so I have a special interest in the challenges of life in the second half.”
How is dating over the age of 50 different from those who are younger?
“I think age provides some advantages. We get more comfortable in our own skins'”wrinkles and all'”and we are much less likely to waste time trying to remold someone into our view of the ideal mate. Life experience helps us focus on what really matters in relationships.”
What are some places someone over 50 can find love?
“Let friends, co-workers and anyone else with connections know you are available for introductions. Go where you might find other singles. Women, take up a sport. Men, learn to dance. (Men who can dance well are in perpetually short supply.) Give Internet dating a try. Join a discussion group or a singles group. Take a class.”
What are some tips you can give someone over 50 to help them attract love?
Here is my top 10:
1. Be positive. Optimism attracts people like a magnet.
2. Be interesting. Keep up with current events and stay involved.
3. Listen more, talk less.
4. Try some new activities. If you meet someone, you’ll already know you have an interest in common. If you don’t, you’ll be enriching your life.
5. Dress for success. Analyze your wardrobe. Does it need a little updating? How about that hairstyle? We always feel more confident when we look our best.
6. Get in shape. Exercise improves our attitudes as well as our bodies.
7. Don’t talk about past loves, children or grandchildren excessively. (See #2 & 3).
8. Boost your self-confidence. If lack of confidence is an issue, consider joining Toastmasters or find someone to help you role-play. No one can know you if you don’t talk to them.
9. Let your first date just be a date'”not an interview for a lifetime commitment.
10. Be safe. Meeting for coffee is a good, neutral place to get acquainted and I’ve never met anyone who woke up regretting what they’d done the night before after too much coffee.
What last dating tip would you like to leave for someone over the age of 50?
“Be yourself. Carrying around a faÃ§ade gets heavy and sooner or later you’ll have to drop it. And one more: Don’t believe for one minute that love is just for the young.”
Thank you Janet for doing the interview on dating over 50. For more information on Janet Holt or her work you can check out her website on www.janetholt.com.
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