Insecurity can often have a devastating effect on you, your life and those around you. Often when insecurity takes hold it can distort everyday situations into problems that needn’t, or don’t actually, exist. It has a way of making you believe a set of preconceived ideas instead of reality.
Whether you have serious problems such as depression or anxiety, or everyday battles with negativity, procrastination and worry, you can’t underestimate the pervasive influence of insecurity.
Feeling Vulnerable, Helpless?
No one is born insecure, it’s a learned thought process. Sometimes it results from childhood psychological damage, sometimes it’s the false belief that you can’t handle life or a certain part of it and often it’s a feeling of vulnerability. But it always distorts an accurate self-perception and it always becomes worse over time. The sooner you tackle it the better, but it’s never too late to start.
It’s Really Just a Habit. Break It!
Your self-worth and confidence are easily eroded over time by the habit of self-doubt and insecurity. Like any habit it can be broken and to break it you’re going to need to reshape your thoughts and inner self-talk. It’s important to remember that there is no such thing as a predetermined personality, so don’t think that your self-doubt is just part of you and you can’t beat it. You can! Your personality is influenced by your genetic make-up, but it’s not determined by it. Broadly speaking, your genetic make-up combined with your life experiences make up your personality. If you’re suffering from insecurity it’s important to embrace new experiences, to help reshape that part of your personality by increasing the number of positive experiences that are being molded into your outlook. This is an essential part of breaking the crippling habit of self-doubt. Break the habit so that it’s you in charge of your life, not insecurity.
It can be hard at the beginning. You need to go against what feels natural; you need to make hard, but healthier, choices because your habit feels natural to you. Don’t give up. Even if it feels easier just to live with it, remind yourself that you don’t want to accept it as part of your life any more. Over time you can rebuild your self-trust.
One of the keys to this is to try to understand that the nagging feeling of self-doubt that you’re experiencing just isn’t true. It’s insecurity’s propaganda at work, tugging at your confidence and undermining your worth. Remind yourself that it’s just…not…true.
Remember – it’s a habit. You can break it!