Today marriages are suffering more than ever before. It makes you want to ask, what is going on? Why do so many people who say that they’ll love each other forever, can’t stand each other? How can you love someone one minute and despise them the next? Why are married people giving up so quickly?
Many people get married for all the wrong reasons, this is true. But is marriage
un-repairable? In Matthew 19:26 (NIV) “Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Could God be the missing ingredient in some marriages? When God created Adam, he also created Adam a help meet, Genesis 2:18. Then God created Eve for Adam and joined them together, Genesis 2:21-24, God created them to be as One. I believe some of the problems in marriage is because each partner is trying to be one on their own terms. You cannot be joined together in a marriage and each partner is doing what they want to do. There should be some type of agreement between the two, on how to manage everyday life, how to manage the finances, how to raise the kids. By doing this you will be joined together as one. Before getting married it’s important to examine each other expectations. For instance, a man might expect his wife to take care of the household, but doesn’t share this with her and she might be expecting him to take care of everything. When each mate does not know what to expect from another, they will eventually clash and become two instead of one. Moreover, to be joined together as one, means to also die to selfishness. Each partner should work to meet the needs of each other and not themselves, hence Genesis 2:18. Divorces separated those who are one and makes them in two. When two people work together as one, both will accomplish greater, Ecclesiastes 4:9-12.
God will not condemn you if you are already divorce, because there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ, Romans 8:1, never forget that. There are some reasons why people do get divorces. God will never want you to stay in a situation where you are being physically abuse or abuse in any other matter, that is not from God. However, many are getting divorces, just because “they don’t get along with each anymore”. To this I question, how did you get along before?
There is certainly an attack on the family, in marriages in particular. The devil will do everything to disprove God’s word. And I believe every time someone is lead to destroy their family, the devil is rejoicing, John 10:10. If you believe God to heal you, protect you and provide for you, why is it so hard to believe God for martial issues. Is there anything impossible for God? He says, no. Do you believe that? Divorce should not be an option in your marriage. God’s word should be your first option. A broken marriage is not impossible for God to remedy. If you believe that God has joined you and your mate together, then I believe you should fight for your marriage. So, before you go on rushing to file a divorce, perhaps you should rush to God for answers and solutions for your marriage together as one.