The wolf whistles could be heard at the other end of the street. They were followed by a couple of short, high-pitched whoops and then some light laughter. A few seconds later the subject of all the activity rounded the corner and it was clear why she elicited the audible attentions. She was beautiful; long cascading red locks in slow flowing waves draping over her shoulders and bouncing with every step she took. Full, lush lips, the color of her hair complimented her face with a smile at each corner of her mouth. Her deep, dark eyes twinkled with the very thought of the stares she had elicited from the onlookers. She had pure, mahogany flesh that glowed with the very essence of health and a positive outlook on life. Her renaissance body, with full, heaving breasts and hourglass hips glided down the street as with each step her entire countenance accented the next move. This was beauty in all its glory. This was the look men go for.
Sounds like a typical scene from any current movie or perhaps even from any typical street in America. Of course a vision like that would be looked at, it may even be ogled or desired. Its scenes like this that make women and men both believe it is a woman’s looks that gets the man’s looks. There is some truth to the statement that men will be lured to a good-looking woman. Appearance is usually the first attribute of any woman to be observed, or man for that matter. You can see a woman from across the room; you can’t experience her. So yes, men do go for looks but then they search for something else.
Unless the man has the opportunity to actually get to know the woman before he has a chance to see her, he will go for looks. It takes looks to get him interested, but it doesn’t have to be Hollywood looks, just the look of a woman with self-dignity. I’m a man and yes, I do go for looks. That is why women think men go for looks, because they truly do. I would like a woman to look good but I need a mind and a heart more than I do a face.
I am fortunate as I had the opportunity to get to know my wife before I ever saw her for the first time. I fell in love with her sometime during the four months we conversed over the computer before we even met. We didn’t even exchange photos for the first couple of months. We talked, we exchanged ideas, we cried on each other’s shoulders and we really got to know one another before we even took our first look at who we were.
When I finally got to see her for the first time I was blessed with an extremely good looking woman. Yes, I went for looks but I first went for ideas and thoughts. Had I met my wife in a club or on the street before we ever met on the computer, I would definitely have been interested, she was and still is extremely beautiful. For me, in my particular situation, my wife’s looks are just the bonus because I fell in love with the woman.
Men have a reputation though; one of going after a woman for one thing and one thing alone. A woman feels that if they are going to get that man interested in the first place then they have to look good. If they can look good enough to get the man’s attentions then they have a chance to sell him on their other attributes; intelligence, motherly instincts, loving attitude, personality, everything that helps make a woman, a woman.
Most men though, including myself, are first attracted to something that looks good. So women think men go for looks and indeed we do go for looks; but only for a minute. Once we approach the woman with the looks, if she has nothing else to offer, then it is going to take some real persuasion to keep us around. Men can be dogs, admittedly, but we really do want someone who can look us in the eye and talk to us about real ideas.
I don’t really like the chat boards and dating sites on the computer today but they are a wonderful way for man and woman to meet without the interruption of physical appearance. They are given the opportunity to really discover who they are speaking with before having to deal with the physical shortcomings or advantages of each other. This is the real test. If a man is really attracted to a woman after having spoken with her for three months on the computer, but has never seen her yet, then when he meets her, and she is not all that attractive, but he is still interested, then that man does not go just for looks. He is a real man; he wants a real woman, not just a cosmetic one.