Many questions should be asked of you and your partner before walking down the aisle. Be truthful with this. It is always best to be honest no matter how bad the circumstances may be.
Questions To Ask
The main one is, Do you really like this person? Do you expect them to change? Don’t think that you are going to be capable of changing each other just because you said ” I do”.
Do you like this person as is? That means do you truly like this person when they are at home just hanging out. Do not get weekend person mixed up with their professional side. Most people act differently at work then when they are at home.
Can you truly talk to this person? Do not ever hide your feelings from your mate. It is not good because you will bottle up these emotions and then one day let loose and it really could be a disastrous situation.
Why do you want to get married? Do you enjoy being with your mate or are you just sexually attracted to them? They are two different things. It will never work with just sex as a base. You need to be both comfortable and sexually attracted to your mate.
What are you looking for in a marriage? Children? Financial security? What responsibilities will be designated to each person and what will be shared?
Serious Behaviors To Watch For
Does you or your mate criticize or try to fix one another? This can be a very dangerous and volatile road to go down.
Does your mate differ greatly in religion, political beliefs? Some couples have problems with this. You need to work it out or move on.
Knowing When It Is Right
If you have similar lifestyles and attitudes toward money that is a plus.
If you share the same work beliefs. It is great when both partners take work seriously but is able to turn it off as soon as they leave the job.
Are you completely content with who you are as an individual and as a couple. If both partners exude self-confidence that is a great way to start out a wonderful marriage.
Make sure you talk with your partner about these questions seriously. If they blow you off, that is a big red flag. Making wise decisions before the wedding is better than living in an unhappy marriage.