The relationship seems like something out of a romance novel. You share things that you’ve never
shared with anyone else; he always tells you things that he claims he’s never told his wife. He thinks about you
all the time, even when he’s at home with the woman he loves. You can feel it in your heart that this man is your
soulmate. You discuss having children and he hints at a possible future between the two of you. Every time you
try to leave he comes to get you. He’ll call like a lovesick manic and may even show up with a sob story. He has
to love you, right? He could’ve left you alone already since you’ve shared intimate moments. Once the two of you
get through this situation, you believe everything will transform into a Disney fairytale. Starring you as the
princess (who is better than his wife, of course) and your lying prince charming.
The foundation is flawed
Healthy relationships are built on trust and respect. His wife can not trust him and there is a chance that you
won’t be able to trust him either. While she is at home taking care of their children and waiting for him to return,
he is with you. When you are waiting for his calls, he is with her. You’ve already proven to him that you will settle
for less. Why would that change if you ended up having a public relationship?
You aren’t better than his wife
No matter what he says, he loves his wife. You may look better than her, have a better job, attended college, or
have a sparking personality; none of this changes the fact that at some point he was so in love with her he
wanted to be with her forever. No one forced him. She didn’t change much after their marriage. She isn’t mean to
him. In fact, she’s probably a decent woman. He may have fallen in love with you, but can he respect you? He has built a solid foundation with his wife; one that he will never be able to build with you.
If he takes you to meet his mother, do you think she will be happy to meet you? Chances are she would be
disgusted by the both of you. A man does not want to disappoint his mother, his children, his wife, and her family
to have an honest relationship with his mistress.
Can you tell your friends and family that you are in love with him with the same enthusiasm as you would if he
was a single man?
If he truly loved you he would leave
Bills. Children. Time. Money. You’ve probably heard one of these excuses from your married man. If it weren’t for
[fill in the blank] he would leave her for you. Once again, he loves his wife. Love is the main reason he isn’t
leaving her for you. If he really loved you he would give you one of the most important roles in his life. He would
want to fall asleep next to you every night and do the things he does for her when you aren’t around.
You’re not soulmates
You boost his confidence. You are the spice of his life. You make it easier for him to return home because he
has both. He’ll never get tired of having a wife and a girlfriend. He doesn’t have to make the choice and he
doesn’t want to. If he is your soulmate, then tell him to come back when he’s not married.
You deserve what he has
When you mention that a man has shown interest in you, he gets jealous. Deep down you love his behavior; it
proves that he wants you. He is a selfish man. He has found the love of his life and he doesn’t want you to;
because you won’t be available for him anymore. Your schedule is always free when he calls. Your availability
is one of the things he likes about you. He doesn’t want another man to share the moments he does with you;
though he shares everything with his wife. You deserve the house, the children, and a lover who will be proud to
show you to the world. You deserve a man who you can spend every holiday and birthday with. He is not second
best and you shouldn’t be either.
You can’t be friends
When you announce that you are leaving, your married man will probably suggest a friendship. This is a man
who vowed to be faithful. He can look his wife in the eyes everyday knowing that he has a relationship with you. Is this a person you would trust to be your friend? This is fine with him because he doesn’t want to be your friend
anyway. He had to say something to keep the lines open. He’ll try to charm you back to your previous position in
5, 4, 3, 2 …….
He told you that you’re beautiful, seductive, intelligent, and probably much more. So why are you settling for him?
It will hurt to end your relationship, but it will hurt more at a later date. Your time is valuable and better spent with
someone who can appreciate it.