As a couple, is the idea to start expressing appreciation of each other appealing? If so, would you consider adopting a couple’s tradition to get a gratitude attitude into your marriage?
The gratitude attitude has long been a tradition in 12-step groups as a tool to support personal growth.
Traditions foster togetherness in couples. Appreciating each other re-affirms reasons you chose to make a life together and strengthens marital growth.
If you want to put a little effort into establishing a new tradition, here is an easy ritual, which will help you talk about qualities of your spouse that are appreciated, but possibly ignored during life’s daily bustle.
Preparing for the Appreciation Ritual
To prepare for beginning a gratitude attitude tradition, take time beforehand to write a gratitude list. Get specific!
Is your husband a terrific handyman? Does your wife prepare wonderful good meals with your health in mind? As a married couple, are you best friends? Wives, do you feel safe with your husband? Husbands, does your wife comfort you?
You will need a pink candle to symbolize your honor for each other.
Expressing Appreciation as a Couple
Spend alone time expressing your appreciation to each other. Sit close together so that you can look in each other’s eyes. Spontaneous touches on the shoulder or handholding validates the topic the speaker is appreciating. Couples should value the power of a gentle touch.
You may choose from these statements, or simply read your appreciation list to each other.
My husband, I have confidence in your abilities to ___________.
My wife, I sizzle with love and appreciation when you __________.
My husband, I see you achieving great success with assistance from Divine Intelligence.
My wife, Divine Wisdom guides our marriage in the correct direction.
To alleviate “who goes first” let’s determine “ladies first”. Now, light the pink candle.
After the wife verbalizes her first appreciation, pause a few moments to enjoy the warm sensation her gratitude brings to the marriage.
Then the husband may express his first appreciation.
Continue in turn, until your lists are exhausted. To seal the ritual, you may use the following or similar statements:
Say together: Our home environment glows with radiant good.
Look in each other’s eyes and say: I appreciate the highest and best in you. Your love brings out the highest and best in me.
A few tender kisses are in order.
Adopt a Gratitude Attitude
When two hearts are filled with the gratitude attitude, you may decide to express appreciation on a regular basis.
Mark your calendar to repeat the appreciation ritual on Thanksgiving Day, a time when our consciousness is already centered on gratitude.
April is Couple’s Appreciation Month bringing another opportunity to reinforce the gratitude attitude.
To keep appreciation flowing, consider starting a Gratitude Journal together or separately.
Keep in your awareness, the best time to begin expressing appreciation as a couple is NOW.
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