Family member related depression is when you’ve allowed someone in your family to have the power to control your feelings in a negative way. It could be an immediate family member such as a spouse or children or a former immediate family member like a sibling that has impacted you. The impact has enough power to depress you so much so that it’s difficult to cope with being around them or to have another family member bring them up in conversation.
Family member related depression can also be due to uncles, aunts, cousins, nephews and nieces that aren’t really considered immediate or former immediate family members because they have their own immediate families.
Family member related depression is a common cause of being hurt, trauma or intense pain that a family member inflicted on you, something that you may relive every time the family member comes around or is mentioned. For instance, an intoxicated family member hit you and pulled a knife on you. A parent had had a massive heart attack when you found them and shortly after you had to deal with an intoxicated family member while the parent died in the hospital. You missed a funeral or seeing a dying family member because of another family member. You had words with a family member that made you so angry that you want nothing more to do with them.
Family member related depression can come and go and most likely doesn’t need medication. The depression may turn on every time you are around the family member that hurt you. The sound of their voice alone without having to see them may bring you down, ruin your day-night and make you feel miserable.
The depression will usually lift once the irritant, the family member, is gone and is away from you. You’ll soon cheer up but it may take awhile. It depends upon how upset the family member made you while they were around. Reliving the hurtful experience or experiences put on you by another family member can be similar to being raped and in some cases it was rape. The feeling can be that intense. Depression often arises because you cannot always control the family member coming around.
Family member related depression could be stressful enough to cause chest pain, angina and possibly a heart attack if the blues with a side of anger is exceptionally intense or stays for an extended period of time.