Me as a grandmother. How do I start? When I first found out that I would be a grandmother, I was on cloud 9. It was not a shock to me since I knew that my son and daughter-in-law had decided to try to get pregnant.
Let me back up and let you know that in the beginning of their marriage, they had decided not to have children.They both had careers and intended to keep it that way. After they were married for about 2 years, they changed their minds and said they thought they would try to have one baby. If I would baby sit the baby so it would not have to go to day care with strangers. OF COURSE I WOULD.
I was so happy. I guess I was happier than most, since all my friends already had grandchildren years before. My youngest son and his wife were not able to get pregnant due to some problems. My oldest son was and is still unmarried. I sure did not want him to give me a grand baby. So, that left the middle son and his wife.
Just to add a little tidbit to this story, let me tell you about what I call a miracle. Before they told me they were thinking of having a baby, my friend and I were talking. I was telling her how much I wanted a grandchild. She suggested we pray that God would change their minds. We are those that believe that God really does want you to have the desires of your heart. Now I never told them this,mainly because they do not go to Church or believe. We believe that he did just that. When God works, he works fast. It was 2weeks after we prayed, my son came to me and told me they thought they might be pregnant. It was a little less than 9 months when my granddaughter was born.
I would sit and listen to everyone at work talk about their grands. I have to say I was a little jealous, but I was the happiest person alive the day my granddaughter was born. I am sure I wasn’t but you could not prove that to me at the time. When my son handed me the baby for the first time I just could not believe it. Of course the fact that it was a girl really helped make it all the more special. I had three boys and had always wanted a little girl. So, I had a little baby doll.
From that moment on, my life centered around her. Then 4 years later they decided to have one more, and we were blessed with a little boy. Other than God, these two are the most important things in my life. Due to some illnesses, I had to quit my job. I was still working a few nights a week, but my life centered around these children. Since I was now working in Home Health Care, I could opt to not work weekends. I was then able to keep my promise and babysit the children. They did not have to go to day care. Every weekend my granddaughter spends the night at my house on Saturday night, my grandson stays the night on Friday night. It has always been that way, always will, unless one of us is sick. They are now 12 and 8.
I have spent this 12 years finding out just how creative I am, among other things. I never had the time to spend with my own children as I have with these. I had to work and raise my children alone. I am truly having a ball.
Grandchildren are truly a gift from God. There is no way that I can explain to you the things I have learned from those babies as they have grown from toddlers to older children. My granddaughter has grown from being this precious baby to my best friend at 12 years old. We were taking a shower together when she was 2 years old.
I keep trying to tell her that we have to stop some day. She is just getting so big. That seems to be the time she has chosen to bond and talk about her week.
My grandson is so laid back and quiet compared to her. We have always thought that he just tolerated us because when we talk to him, he just mumbles uh, huh, no matter what we say to him. Then he goes back to what he is doing. Our time together is movie time on Friday nights. We hurry and get our showers and get in the bed by 8 so we can watch a movie and talk. He always brings the movie, of course. He talks like a little grown up and seems so intelligent. No, I am not at all partial.
When I began this article I thought there would be so much I could tell about what I have learned but I think it comes down to one thing. I have learned that there is a love that is different than any you will ever have. That is the love for your grandchildren. You will find it is so unique compared to any you have felt in your lifetime.
If there is any way possible, do not let those years pass you by without spending that wonderful time with yours.
It is truly the best time of your life.