Forgiveness is good for the soul. The act of forgiveness is not easy to do but it is much healthier than holding onto anger. Some people can forgive easily and for others it can be more difficult to do.
Anger can be like a cancer that eats you up inside. If you forgive, you can move on from the hurt and anger you feel. Not forgiving allows the person who hurt you to have power over you.
Once you do make the choice to forgive, life does not just go on from there. There is a second part of forgiveness that many people do not always do. After you forgive you need to make another choice and that is whether or not to have the source of your hurt continue to be a part of your life.
When someone hurts you the trust is broken. Damage has been done to the relationship whether it is a friend, family member or another loved one. Choosing to forgive is often necessary for you to go on with your life but forgetting is another story.
Rebuilding trust takes time. Do not be foolish enough to forgive and forget. Until that person proves themselves worthy to you, you are vulnerable to being a victim again. Sorry is a word that gets thrown around too easily if it is even said at all. In circumstances where you do not even get the benefit of an apology, forgiving the person is the end of the relationship. There is no reason to keep trusting someone who has no respect for you or your feelings. Forgiving them and eliminating them from your life is the best thing you can do for yourself.
In other cases, you may get an apology and promises. Be careful about trusting this person too soon. Give it time for them to prove themselves worthy of your friendship, love or whatever it is that they want from you. If you truly had something real with this person, you may be able to work through the ugliness that caused them to hurt you and enter into a better, stronger relationship. It all depends on the honesty of the person who did the hurting.
There are people who prey on other people’s vulnerabilities in order to boost their own ego and they probably are people who should just be avoided in order to keep from being a victim of their malicious nature. Others are honestly sorry for what they have done and perhaps do deserve to be able to earn your trust again. This is when you must listen to your instincts and follow through accordingly. Automatically forgiving and trusting again is a foolish way to live. Everyone is different and unfortunately, not every person that you come across is worthy of being in your life.
We are all human and we make mistakes. Consider the circumstances and think it through carefully. In order to avoid the cycle of constantly being hurt, you must choose wisely when it comes to who you give your trust to.