As far as the big day is concerned, choosing the season is just as important as the venue since this will influence the availability of color schemes. This is the story of one fall wedding that is dear to my heart.
This lovely African-American couple in their early fifties and who wish to remain anonymous will be married this November. They met in September of last year and were engaged in March.
He was married once before for roughly a decade. She was married about twenty years ago for about 20 years and as two grown children. Her daughter will be her maid-of-honor and her son will give her away.
Since they are getting married this fall, they have chosen colors that are inspired both by the season and the bride’s favorite colors: red, brown and crème.
The photographer will be arriving early in the morning in order to take photographs of the bride, groom, bridesmaids, and groomsmen, along with close family and friends.
They both have homes and will be moving into a brand new home in order to fully commit to starting their lives together in a new space. They have registered at Target and Bed, Bath & Beyond because they find these two stores to provide a great balance of affordable, everyday products couple with sophistication.
Soul food will be served at the reception in a buffet style so that people can pick and choose their favorite dishes to show down before getting their grooves on to the live DJ who has been instructed to play at least one-and-a-half hours of pure dance music at the designated time.
They have been playing house for the last several months so they have already established how household chores and tasks will be completed in a timely manner. This is a system that they naturally developed.
The happy couple are both devote and practicing Baptists. They attend the same church several times a week and the bulk of their friends are also members of the same organization.
They are going to combine their financial lives together when they become one. They both are only close to those friends and family who geographically live close to them.
He prefers to spend more time together than she does. She loves to socialize and go out with her friends, while he prefers to stay home, cook dinner together and snuggle.
The bridal shower was held at the home of a close church friend. The guests were offered raspberry punch, tea and ice water as beverages. Along with those non-alcoholic drinks, we ate finger foods and played party games: How well do you know the bride? How many items did you see? And Bride Bingo.
Neither bride or groom dance well but would like the first dance at their wedding to be memorable so they are hiring a professional dancer to dance to one of their favorite love songs.
Prior to taking a step like our lovely anonymous couple, you need to ask yourself several basic questions, including but not limited to: Are you able to communicate clearly with your partner? Are you able to communicate effectively with your partner? Sex is often the only area in which one or both parties are unhappy. Are you able to discuss your sexual desires freely? Finances are the number one power trip in partnerships. Have you established how finances will be maintained regardless of who’s bringing in how much? And so many other topics that can be found at http://www.canadianliving.com/intimacy/love/10_things_to_talk_about_before_you_get_married_2.php and http://www.lovingyou.com/articles/love/7-things-to-consider-before-you-get-married/
If after completing a diagnosis of your relationship, either on your own and/or with the help of a marriage counselor, you have decided to continue toward getting married than some of the following advice may be of use.
Just as I said before, the season that you choose is just as important as the venue in order to complete the tone, mood and desire look for this monumentous day. If you are getting married in the winter, white, blue and chocolate color schemes are the most popular choices. If you are getting married in the spring, pastel greens, yellows, and predominate flower arrangement possibilities are the most popular choices. If you are getting married in the summer, colors that are in the purple family are the most popular choices. And if you are getting married in the fall, as my friends are, browns, oranges, and crème color schemes are the most popular choices.
With the insane amount of planning that goes into having a successful wedding (and it is not something that most people do every day), it is nice to have some help from someone who is not going to charge you an arm, leg and a car in order to give you a decent outline as to how to approach organizing everything for your big day. I have located some great sites but narrowed it down to the outline at http://www.frugalbride.com/weddingplanningchecklist.html and there is a more detailed outline at http://www.realsimple.com/holidays-entertaining/weddings/planning/wedding-planning-checklist-00000000000222/index.html
Regardless of what age, cultural background, and life you have lived, be certain to always clearly communicate your needs and desires with your partner. Once you do not feel like you can speak your mind just as openly as you would with yourself, sad to say but the end is on its way.
I am definitely looking forward to this fall wedding and sharing just how happy and hopeful I am for this couple as I dance the first dance in honor of their infinite love for one another.