As a new middle school, high school and college year begin, it is important to talk about sexual and personal health. The older women become, the more sex will become a part of life and the more it should talked about every day.
More and more middle school aged kids are not only talking about sex, but having sex. By the time your little girl hits the 6th grade, she will have been introduced to some form of sex education even if that education is not at the hand of the parent.
Talking to the middle schoolers about sex is especially important due to the fact that menses, or the menstrual cycle, will most often begin in the middle school years. The sex talk should cover STDs, pregnancy, birth control and condoms.
By the time the girls have reached high school, it is nearly impossible to assume they have not had their first kiss or first sexual experience. This experience may not have resulted in intercourse, but the offer or the thought of sex may be at the fore front of their minds.
The sex talk at this age needs to be able communication. If you are to convince your child to come to you and talk about sex, you need to be calm, cool and collected when they do. Sex can lead to pregnancy, STDs or death if unprotected. This needs to be passed on to the high schooler bluntly and not vaguely.
The college years present a whole new story for girls, now women, and sex. The education at this age is more about protection than prevention. Condoms are a great thing to keep in your dorm room at all times. Also, make sure to ask about the “blue light” program on campus. Many college offer an emergency button that can be pushed in case of an emergency on campus at night.
While in college make sure to:
• Never go to the room of a person you do not know.
• Say yes to sex when you really want to say no.
• Drink at parties. (Many sexual assaults occur during drinking parties)
Your sexual health is one of the most important parts of who you are. From middle school, through high school and beyond, sex will be there, so you can wait!