Before you know it, your little girl will be at the age that she is wanting to date. Here are some helpful tips to make the transition easier for her and you.
1. When your daughter is little, set an ideal age of when they will be allowed to start dating. However, let her know this age is not set in stone. Her being allowed to date will also depend on her maturity level. (I know some 20 year old’s who aren’t mature enough to date).
2. When your daughter is little, tell her there are no boyfriends until is is older. No boys are allowed to call the house, etc, until the parents have said it is allowed. There is no reason for an 8 year old girl to be talking on the phone to boys and saying she has a boyfriend, even if they do not go anywhere are spend anytime together. None.
3. Insist that she dates someone who has the same belief system as your family. In other words, encourage her to date someone in her own religion. I know this sounds old fashion, but let’s face it, wouldn’t you feel better knowing your daughter is with someone who believes the same way as you….and has been raised with those same values?
4. Start talking about the above (#3) when they are little. When are girls were little, around 3-4, we found dinners out were great opportunities to have life lesson talks. For example, when you get bigger and get married, what do you want your husband to be like. It started off that he had to like chocolate and dogs. But later, as they grew and matured, their list changed to being a Godly man like their Dad. The old “be careful who you date, they could be your mate” is a great life lesson!
5. On her very first date, have her meet the guy some where safe. Again, I know old fashion, but let’s face it…this isn’t a safe world. Your daughter can drive herself to where they are going to be, at the movies or dinner. Then she has a way to get home in case things don’t go well or she is uncomfortable.
6. Group dates are always a good idea, especially if your daughter does not know the young man very well. There is safety in numbers.
7. Don’t allow your daughter to date just for the sake of dating. To often young girls give into peer pressure. Some girls may not be ready to date at 16. Let her know it is OK to wait, and that there is nothing wrong with her.
8. Talk, talk and talk some more about sex. Your daughter may not want to hear it, but hear it she must.
9. Have rules about where she can go on a date, what time she will be home and to communicate with you if plans change. Let her know that you may just show up to check on her sometime. She will never know if you check on her or not, but it may keep her from making a mistake she would later regret.
10. If you don’t approve of the guy, don’t let her walk out that door. If your daughter is 16 and wants to date a 24 year old, a big warning bell should be going off in your head. Listen to your gut. Always!