Stress seems to be everywhere. Pressures at work, responsibilities at home, and challenges that come in our lives. At times it seems we are on a run away train and can’t seem to stop the fast beating of our heart and the knots in our stomach. Having workded with people with severe mental illness for many years and also had stress I reflected on what I tried to teach the people I worked with and what was helpful for me.
Sometimes we can get so stressed and frustrated when we see a family member or friend exhibiting self- destructive behavior. There are many ways we might want to help them. Some helpful and some aren’t. When they don’t change or they do but them go back to their former ways we can feel angry and them and wonder if we should or could have done something more.What I have learned is that we can only change ourselves. We have no control over the actions of another person. Yes we can offer support and if asked give suggeestions or go to family therapy and follow the therapists advice, but basically it is up to the family member or friend to change.
Having a balanced life is important. By that I mean taking care of ourselves, having a service or job of some kind that we are involved in, focusing on our spirituality, having friends, being with our family, and havng fun. When we are out of balance it’s easy to become stressed.Many times we forget to take care of ourself. For the last eight months I have eaten healthy and exercise. What a difference!
Find things each day for which we are grateful . Notice the beauty of creation and the small acts of kindness people do for us. Try and start the day with a positive attitude, and most of all know we have an inner light within us. This light provides compassion, courage,faith, and can light up the world. This light is our soul. Find time to rest with our soul. Rest in the wondrous light of who we really are!