Even just one hour less a day?
First off, let me congratulate you on your bravery and ambition of taking up this task! This is no easy feat. We all know the minds and souls of our boyfriends and husbands are stolen by the gaming lords above. No amount of sexuality, comfort food or even money can pull him away. Seriously, it may just be a drug. The FDA should put warning labels on these things. What makes it even worse is that sometimes this is a “drug” they’ve been addicted to since childhood. Thank you Nintendo! Thank you lazy babysitter!
Anyhow, thing is, the incessant gaming is annoying! The angry mutterings and curse words under his breath irritate you to no end. The extremely young and unemployed gamers he plays online with is creepy. You are tired of him hogging the 52″ TV in the living room when The Bachelor comes on. Time for action!
To accomplish this task you are going to need to stay alert. This mission requires reverse psychology techniques, meaning you will need to be on your “game” (the good kind of game).
1) Never complain or condone the gaming system
This only adds to his annoyance (and yours). The constant “nagging” will most likely create the opposite effect (he’ll play more!). Let’s face it, there’s nothing better than doing something you’ve been asked not to do!
Condoning use of the system or demanding he sell or throw it away won’t work either. I’ve been here. My husband did sell the XBOX and we lived in what I title “Call of Duty Peacetime” for over three months. Then one day, out of the blue, a package came home with him from Best Buy. A brand new PS3 in all of its evil glory was revealed. The “control” you may have over the gaming habit will eventually wear off after such tactics I stated above. His discipline and need for war games via thumb controls will spike. It’s best to nip this in the butt in a much different way. If anything I recommend encouraging him to play every now and then. Ask questions about what level he’s at, what world or land he’s in and etc. This will confused him incredibly. Confused husband=Upper hand for the Wife.
2) Ask if you can play with him
Play the game that is! I know this sucks. You’ve probably already tried this and you were bored to tears. He probably got annoyed that you were so terrible. His entire battle team probably lost in a record-breaking 30 seconds and his online buddies yelled at him. He is now embarrassed of your skill level.
This time though, take it on like a new sport. Have him really teach you about the triggers and hand movements. Learn the ins and outs of the games. Ask detail-oriented questions. Try to be good at it and at the same time try to find the bottom of his addiction. What specifically about the game is he into? Is it the war fight? Next time you are at Dick’s Sporting Goods check out the hunting/rifle section. If it’s the fact that he’s competitive, look for a way to express that. Maybe he could toss the football around with his buddies. Better yet, if it’s the camaraderie of his fellow gamers, then he could find some comfort in more socializing.
Even if you don’t find the driving quest behind his games, you can hope that while he shows you the ins and outs of the game he will begin to feel like the game itself is beginning to become “beneath” him. This is a common attitude that develops after teaching something. Soon, gaming will be a guilty pleasure rather than his first thoughts after work.
3) Find others who are more addicted than him
This trick I found by accident. While at a house party some of the guys had clustered into a back room to hold an XBOX-a-thon. (Sigh while rolling my eyes). My husband was there with me, drinking a few Miller Lights when this happened. He watched a few minutes and then asked if I was ready to leave. My jaw nearly hit the floor. One would think he would adore these guys with their incessant gaming while drinking. Not so fast though! Seeing and experiencing others that are more addicted than him (and were better than him) annoyed him to no end. It was an epiphany for him you could say. This may or may not work and I apologize if by chance if this worsens the situation!
Best of luck in your endeavors. Always remember, the XBOX/PS3 is not your enemy or competition! The gaming industry is not the devil. It’s just the devil’s sidekick.