You have been married to the love of your life, everything is perfect, you have children, wonderful circle of friends, but something doesn’t feel quite right. You search you look and you find something that will change the rest of your life forever. You discovered that your husband is sleeping with other men. After realizing that your whole life has been a lie, what lies in the future? You may feel at that point and time that you cannot simply move past this moment, no need to worry, here are ways you can cope.
First thing to do is get tested. With any case of infidelity, contracting any disease is always an issue. Check to see if you are in good health and take things from there. Making sure you are in good health is the most important thing.
You are not alone. There are many women from all over whom are going through the same ordeal. Thankfully there are some support groups online and off that can help with this sort of ordeal. Many times victims do not turn to family because they are ashamed and do not know how to even begin to tell them how they have been living with someone who is not what they say they are. One the most popular places online is Straight Spouse which can help you find support groups in your area if you are willing to attend and groups online you may want to join and discuss. You can also do a general search and find many places discussing very similar issues involving wives who find out their husbands are having a gay love affair.
You have a choice, you can either stay or leave, that’s it. The reason that I say that you can stay is because There are women who choose to stay. But why would someone stay after finding out that they have been cheated on? Love, embarrassment, fear of being alone. You love your husband so much, he is your life and he is all that you know, despite this betrayal, you still love him, and truly believe that you can work this out. You can try to go to counseling and see if there is hope. Therapy has a great way of getting couples to say how they truly feel and help heal each other as a couple and individually.
There are women who chose to accept the fact that their husband is gay and continuing having sex with men. They choose to live separate lives while still living with each other for the sake of children and family. But is this a healthy way of living? Is that fair? The thought of moving forward may not seem like it is even possible, how can you trust someone else again? If you decide to move on, it may take some time to deal with what is going on in your life at the moment, but it is possible. How you choose to cope and decide what to do when your husband is gay is entirely up to you, but remember that you deserve more and time does heal.