I have to start off by saying if your reading this article because of its title than you may have the wrong idea. Today more than ever married couples are feeling the crunch of a down economy which seems to be hitting them from every side that they live on. Jobs have become scarce while the cost of many things continue to go up, sometimes you feel as if your paying to work because the gas runs out quicker than you can keep it in your car, bills pile up and pay raises get cut down so eventually all this financial madness has to take its toll on a couple and push them not only farther apart but into some last minute decisions such as seperation or divorce.
So what help is there for a couple who three or four years ago were living in a happy kind of bliss and now are at the verge of calling it quits because they feel that things around them are falling apart? I am in no way a certified therapist and definitely no Dr.Phil but I am a divorcee who can talk from experience of what I know now that I didn’t know then. The first thing I seriously recommend in dealing with marital issue’s is grab hold of your faith. Two people married before God should read the book God designed to help us get through the hard times. Yes I am saying pick up your Bibles and find out how so many made it through the hardest times because they believed and kept their faith in God. I know this might offend some who have other beliefs but this is why I am the author of this article because these are my beliefs.
Now to the better half of this whole situation. You both married for “richer and poorer” and “till death do you part.” I would recommend after grabbing your faith that you both set down and try to communicate your feelings and problems and concerns to each other in a calm manner. Don’t try and solve everything at one time, talk a few things over and if you feel yourselves getting stressed than take a break say a small prayer together and here comes the fun part; both of you get up embrace each other and go out on a date. That’s right, you both need to set a night aside and go out and fall back in love and out of the aggravation that has come between you both. Sometimes when people are married for a while they start to crave that feeling they had when they were dating, not the going looking feeling but more of the (fun we had together) feeling. The one strongest bond other than children in a marriage is the bond of a husband and wife. If your world of jobs and careers along with bills and mortgages and payments start taking its toll on the both of you; take sometime off from your problems, not each other. Learn to date again while your married, go out if for only one night a month and recapture the two people who fell in love, don’t let all the pressures build up between you both and break apart what you and God built together.