Not all families are filled with kind, loving people that welcome outsiders into their tightly woven circle. On the contrary, some are hateful, judgmental, and unreasonably defensive. All it takes is one or two people with a bad attitude to ruin a family gathering by making unnecessary rude comments. In many cases the offenders are in-laws. Consider the following ways to deal with rude in-laws, and show them you are not going to lower yourself to their standards of etiquette by making snide remarks and passive aggressive comments.
Avoid Impolite In-Laws at Family Gatherings
One of the easiest way to deal with rude in-laws is through avoidance. This does not mean staying home and not attending family gatherings. This would not be fair to others, and it would only add fuel to the fire. Instead, deal with the problem by mingling with those that are considerate, and avoid rude in-laws and other unkind people. This will show everyone that you are friendly and thoughtful, and they will be less likely to buy into what rude in-laws might say when you are out of earshot.
Do Not Become Isolated – Ever
Rude in-laws and other unkind individuals are most likely to spew their hatefulness when their victim is alone. When trying to deal with rude in-laws, avoid becoming isolated. For example, if the person that seems to like causing problems happens to be alone in the kitchen or another area of the home, put off doing whatever it is you planned to do in that location. Unless they are truly ignorant and naturally unpleasant, they know full well what they are doing when making discourteous comments. When it comes to premeditated bad behavior, in-laws are not likely to misbehave in front of others. After all, rude in-laws want family members to believe that you alone are the problem.
Think Before Responding to Bad-Mannered In-Laws
Everyone at one time or another has wished they said something clever in response to a rude comment, especially when trying to tolerate impolite in-laws at family gatherings. Be prepared when trying to deal with rude in-laws. When something rude or spiteful is said, do not immediately answer. Think for a few seconds, and come back with a tactful response. However, do not stoop to the same level of rudeness in an effort to deal with the problem. If necessary, politely ask the person to repeat what they said. This will eliminate the need to wonder if something rude was correctly heard long after the fact.