Sometimes it becomes necessary to end a relationship with an inmate pen pal. This could be because the inmate becomes harassing, sending you excessive mail when you’ve asked him or her to stop, starts making threats either directly or indirectly or seeks romantic involvement after you’ve already declined.
Obviously, first try to end the relationship with the inmate directly. “I’m sorry, but I can longer be your pen pal.” If you do feel you need to include a reason, be honest, “I don’t appreciate requests for money and I’m not interested in you romantically. Since you’ve decided to not honor this, I will end our letter writing relationship.” If this does not stop the inmate from continuing to write to you, report the inmate directly to the prison facility where he or she is located and advise the mail room and or Chaplain’s department that you no longer wish to receive mail from said inmate.
Report the incidences and your desire to end the relationship directly to the pen pal agency you went through, if applicable. Some inmate pen pal agencies will end the relationship for you by sending a polite but non-disputing letter about not writing to you anymore and may offer a caring reason for doing so. This is especially true if you use an inmate pen pal company that forwards the mail to you rather than having the inmate write directly to you.
If you keep getting mail from the inmate, do not open the envelopes, but instead take a black permanent marker and mark out your address information and write “RTS” or “Return to Sender” on the envelope and put it back into the mail. After a short time, the mail should discontinue. For more information on protecting your safety when writing to an inmate, click here.