There are many situations and people in our lives that we would like to forgive, but we just can not. It is so hard. If we forgive them, then we feel like we are saying that what they did is okay. What they did is not okay. It hurt. It is wrong. Why should we forgive?
We mistake forgiveness for saying that what the person did is okay with us and they are free to do it again. We feel like we are putting ourselves in the place of doormats and allowing that person to walk all over us. That is not the true meaning of forgiveness.
We first try to forgive with our heads. Then we try to forgive with our hearts, but what does that mean? Forgiveness is a gift from God that we can use to take all the thought and trying out of forgiving. There is an easier way.
Forgiveness is more than a gift from God. Forgiveness is a great tool to release errors (pain, hurt, hatred, and other bad memories) from our consciousness. Forgiveness is the proverbial “sea of forgetfulness.” When we initiate forgiveness, then God (the Divine) is able to cast our cares away and change our life situations. Yes, and even change the people who are around us. The changing (of other people or even ourselves) is not our work. Our only work is to forgive.
The Forgiveness Process
I use the process of Ho’oponopono to forgive. This ancient Hawaiian Huna means “to make right” or “to correct errors.” This process says that, “I am totally responsible for everything that happens in my life. Though, I do not have to trouble myself with the worry of fixing any problems. That is the work of the Divine.”
The mantra of Ho’oponopono is, “I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” These words are very healing. I make it a practice to say these healing words in every situation in my life. You can practice Ho’oponopono with literally no understanding of how the process works. Just repeating the phrases to yourself is sufficient to living a good life.
The Philosophy of Ho’oponopono
There is a complete philosophy to Ho’oponopono that once understood will help to solidify your belief in the power of the process. It is then, that you can begin to change the World.
Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len used this method to heal an entire ward of the criminally insane in a mental institution in Hawaii. You can use this same method of forgiveness to heal your family, your relationships, your work. I have even heard stories of Dr. Len creating changes in the energy of a room through Ho’oponopono. Even another story of him causing an inanimate machine to correct itself through the process of Ho’oponopono. For the scope of this article we will continue discussing forgiveness in relationships.
Cleaning From Within
You are the only consciousness in which you can think from. You can not think from another person’s consciousness. All that you see comes from the memories or data that is projected through your thoughts and consciousness. So every problem that you see or hear about is your work to “clean.” Cleaning is the process of saying the Ho’oponopono mantra: “I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”
So when someone says something that hurts your feelings, then your work is to forgive the person, forgive the situation, forgive yourself. You do not have to say anything to the person or people in the situation, just repeat the mantra within yourself. Allow the Divine (God) to heal that place and situation and change the hearts of everyone included.
This takes all the thinking out of forgiving. You no longer have to struggle trying to forgive. Forgiveness becomes a simple process of recognizing a problem, saying a mantra and allowing God to do the work. This is how we forgive for real.